Is it normal that i'm getting married at 19?

I'm curious. Everyone around me is telling me it's "far too young" and "why not wait until after college". Well, the truth is, by the time I'm 19 my boyfriend and I will have been together 4 years! We really don't see the need in waiting because we know in our hearts that we love each other deeply and we want a larger commitment than just "BF/GF". We still will continue college and actively practice birth control, so what's the problem? Lol, am I normal in thinking this way?

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64% Normal
Based on 115 votes (74 yes)
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  • TheW1fey

    Congratulations! I say normal! Screw all these people saying you're too young, yada yada yada! I met this guy at 18, got pregnant by him at 19 and had his child, got pregnant by him again and had another kid by him at 24 and had another child with him at 25. Oh and yes, he is my husband and I am going on 27 yrs of age! We have been together almost 10 yrs, since we were both teenagers, and are still as much in love then as we are now! Yes people do change, but so significantly that you could never look at them again? Not so much! I say hang on to that love you guys have and show all these lonely none believers that it can happen!

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  • so_damn_unpretty

    id say go for it. im twenty and my bf and i have been together for five years. we wanted to get married last year and are soley waiting for financial reasons. if youve found your soulmate and its meant to be you know it deep in your heart. Congratulations to the two of you! May you live happily ever after :)

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  • baby_princess

    Congratulationns girl, your life is your own... taking other people's advice can sometimes be detrimental to your happiness ans self development. Do not go into your marriage thinking that something will go wrong , dont put that energy out there and dont let other cynics put it out there for you.

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  • Cookies&Cream

    My cousin married at 18 and she and her husband been happily together for 3 years and havent had a baby and what so ever. Its not common nowadays but back in the old days people got married at 16-18 all the time. If you & him are happy with your decition then it shouldnt matter what others think. Good luck with everything.

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  • dappled

    Congratulations. I hope you have a great day.

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  • Intension

    not uncommon but i don't recommend it.

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  • anonymous1503

    yes it's normal but your too old to get married.

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  • drumandpickchick

    I got married at 19 and now I'm 25...still married! He's my best friend! We don't have any kids yet, we're too busy having fun and enjoying being married and free! It is a blast! I was never into the dating scene and was lucky enough to meet 'the one' the first time. But tell you what, it was NICE to get the dating drama behind me before I got older. Some like the single life, and some don't. I for one can't stand listening to everyone's boo hoo boy stories and the constant sleeping around. I'm not saying I'm better than anyone, I just feel fortunate I don't have to deal with all that junk and don't want to hear it. Good luck to you!!!

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  • tinyk

    Don't listen to other people, follow your heart. Who cares if other people think its too young? My grandparents got married at 16 and 17 years old and have been together for 60+ years.

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  • BonestoPaste

    Sister married at 19 and had a kid at 20. I think it's cool (she's almost 22)

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  • Do whatever is best for the both of you.

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  • congratulations

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  • DwayneHicks

    Wow 4 years...I got married at 23 and I look back and say I was way too young to get married. Wait a little longer...people truly change in there 20s.

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  • luc3

    I thought I loved my ex at 20 n was ready to Marry him then I realized God protected me from making the biggest mistake of mi life

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  • 8Serene8

    Nope not normal. You are too young. Try having kids first and watch how quickly your relationship falls apart. Wait a few more years.

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  • Mimi69

    At 19 I had the same boyfriend for the last 4 years. I was so in love with him and I KNEW he was the one. At 25 I look back at that relationship and cringe. People change significantly in their early 20's. Think it through really well, you don't want to become another statistic.

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  • vestedinterest

    It may not last because people change a lot in their twenties. At that age it's easy to think that things don't change, but so much happens that is impossible to imagine. And it shapes you and him, often in different directions.

    The idea is to make it last, which is why it's good to marry later.

    Try a 5 year engagement - that's an expression of commitment, but not getting in too young.

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  • DannyKanes

    You just do whatever makes you happy :-)

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  • Drop the birth control but stay single.

    That's normal.

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  • girrrl

    All I have to say is you're an IDIOT if you do it.

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