Is it normal that i'm getting frustrated with this?

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I'm sure it's normal to some degree, but I'd like to hear some other opinions. I've been dating this boy for about 6 months now - the two of us have both proven to be extremely shy. To this point we've yet to even hold hands. Mind you were both still in high school - we're that cutesy couple that makes everyone go "aww", because we always sit in the corner and talk together.
I'm sort of concerned though...have I perhaps slipped into his 'friend zone'? Do boys even have friend zones? I don't know...
I have this female friend, she's the sweetest little thing - she has this way though, where no matter who she's talking to, she acts like she's hitting on them. Of course we're all used to this from her at this point, but it still kind of irks me that she flirts with him more than I do and..well, he responds in a similar matter.. Of course they're not serious or anything (trust me, I'm sure it sounds worse than it is).
I know I should step up and tell him how I feel, but I don't want to cause any dumb drama - I've done this before in the past. Is it normal that I wish my boyfriend and I were a little more confident around eachother?

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  • SarahCassidy
    13 years ago

    It really is normal. I myself have also had this flirty friend, that liked nothing more than attention. But I don't think she is the problem. I think, that you guys are too shy. Its a nice relationship, you got there. But you are saying that you are still only holding hand after 6 month? Well if he doesn't take the initiative, you sould! You should really pull some courage together and be a little dared. You don't have to go all out in the behinning. Start little by little. Maybe you should start with hugging each other everytime, you part/meet. Just do it. Wrap your arms around his neck and hold him close even for a second. Or if you are too shy, ask him to hug you. It doesn't have to be only YOUR resposibility. It is also his. Im sure that hé would like to hug you and be close to you. By doing that often, you will get used to it and you guys will develope your intimacy. Next you could start kissing on the cheek or even on the lips, if you feel confident. I think that you guys first of all have to build up a trust between you. Start doing something new. Couple activities, perhaps. Take small steps. Its leading you slowly, but directly forward. You both should learn to talk openly about your feelings towards each other. Saying 'I love you' is very good for both his and your confident.
    I hope I could help and that I didn't misunderstand your situation. Good luck ;)

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  • Memehoney
    13 years ago

    Try and build confidence both in urself and in ur relationship. And if she oversteps het boundaries go a head and mention it to her otherwise don't worry about it. It seems like u have faith the he would never disrespect u in that way so there u go be confident about that and just try to move outta the friend zone.

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  • rayb12
    7 years ago

    This is amazing, everything will be worked out. You will find a way to solve it.

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  • xXAnnaXx
    13 years ago

    Holding hands is a bit intimidating I have to admit..

    It's physical contact, if you get nervous and you get a bit cold/hot he's going to notice..

    Then he'll thin your a freak and leave you.

    But he wouldn't of left you if you didn't have physical contact to begin with.

    Then again my advice sucks lol

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