Is it normal that i'm freaked out that my crush dated a lot of girls?

So I'm nineteen, in college, and I have a huge crush on this guy. I have two classes with him, one right after the other, and he and a few of our classmates in the first class and I have coffee together before the second class starts. We've had various discussions about relationships, sex, ect. In one, he mentioned that he's dated a lot of girls. In another, the two other girls and I were discussing why we're not into other girls, and I said "vaginas are nasty," and the girls laughed, but he was all like, "what're you talking about? Vaginas are great". He said it so casually, too. I'm probably reading too much into it, but it sounded to me like he's, ah, "dealt with" plenty of them, if you catch my drift.

I'm nineteen, and I've only ever been in four relationships. Only one of those four got sexual, and we didn't end up having actual sex. He's three years older than me, so I guess it makes sense that he would have more experience, but I feel really intimidated by it. I know there's no way of knowing at this point if we'll ever go out, much less get that far, but if we did, it scares me that I might not live up to his expectations. Is it normal for me to be intimidated by this?

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  • Nokiot9

    More experience is good news for u. If he knows his way around a vagina why would that be a bad thing?

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  • thegypsysailor

    I met my first wife while I was working for a band in the 60's, so she had some idea of the way things were, in those days.
    It was a big mistake to put an approximate number on the girls I'd been with, when asked by my second wife. I'm not one to lie to anyone, but to have avoided the question would have been best.
    As Nokiot9 says, this is a GOOD thing for you, if you look at it from that point of view. However, anything that happened before you two hooked up should not be of any significance to you, beyond that. If you turn this into a big deal, then you will probably damage the relationship.
    If he's a good guy, and a good friend, then accept him as he is, and don't let things beyond your control intimidate you.

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  • DarQness

    normal, its understandable. if someone has had a lot of relationships in the past it makes you wonder why none of them worked out. i'm 29 and i really didn't date much. i'm more of the best friend or brother to women. either that or get cheated on. or be in a relationship and find out i was the other guy. which feels bad. just keep your guard up and play it smart.

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  • handsignals

    This video will explain every thing you need to know about Vaginas.
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-rC-nDkae5k

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    • MaggieEM

      I know about vaginas, thanks. I've got one. I've done plenty of research. This was completely unrelated to my issue. It wasn't about whether or not I know about them, but that the concept of my crush being experienced with them intimidates me. This in no way addresses the issue at hand. Thank you for assuming that I, an adult, am uneducated about my own body. Downvoted.

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      • handsignals

        Here's 2 things I bet you did not know about vaginas
        https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P6E17VTsKws

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