Is it normal that i'm flattered when people think i'm strainght?

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I'm a 23 yr old male who came out 8 yr ago. but often people mistake me for being straight, I am quite a masculine guy, i have many straight friends and i'm quite happy to joke around with guys about girls and stuff, so many people at work or at parties just assume im straight.
then when some one asks me if I have a gf, a girl hits on me or something similar thinking I'm straight it makes me happy, and flattered or some times i feel weirdly prowd, I don't realy know why, because I'm happy to be gay.
then when i tell them i'm gay i find it funny, i feel like I've fooled them (unless they freak out, that upsets me).
is it normal any other gay people experienxe similar reactions?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    I'm sure that your parents are "prowd" too.

    Anyway, I wouldn't be too flattered. Most men are straight so naturally, unless you act like a huge fruity pansey (which may not even mean that they're gay anyway), it's going to be safe to assume that you're straight.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      dad yes, but I thinck my mom would of liked a shopping buddy....

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      • WordWizard
        11 years ago

        Most moms are like that. You can still shop with her anyways.

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  • bristexai
    11 years ago

    You don't follow stereotypes that were the opposite decades ago.

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  • hiprat
    11 years ago

    well let us all try to get point here, i got 2 gay friend whom they all suspect he,s not a gay but guy o n a mission you know why he,s very ugly,

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  • JuliusE
    11 years ago

    Just because you're gay doesn't mean you have to act like the stereotypical, flamboyant homosexual. Half of that is an artificially created persona anyway. As a straight guy with multiple homosexual male friends I can tell you straight men will take you much more seriously if you don't act hyper-effeminate and emotionally unstable.

    I understand part of it is probably hormonal and whatnot, but the more control over your emotions and the less overly effeminate you act the easier it is for straight men to feel comfortable around you and respect you.

    The truth is most normal straight guys find men who are overly effeminate seriously uncomfortable. And that has little to do with if you're actually homosexual or not.

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  • Trance38
    11 years ago

    I think you just get a kick out of fooling people into thinking you are straight.

    You like looking masculine and attractive,and you enjoy the attention you get from both females and males.

    It's kind of the same with straight people, you get flattered when ANYONE likes you or has a crush on you, even if you don't find them sexually appealing, you enjoy the attention anyways because it boosts your self esteem and self image.

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  • Squambly+
    11 years ago

    Im sure the confusion is a little embarrassing for the girls though.But it's good that you don't take it the wrong way. I guess you feel happy because you don't look or act like the stereotypical gay male.

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  • WordWizard
    11 years ago

    No comment.

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