Is it normal that i'm feeling pissed off for such thing?

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I have a few friends and I know them for more than 4 years. The thing is, I'm feeling real pissed when they are always late and I have to wait for them. From half an hour to one and half hour. Wtf??! I already showed them how piss I am and inconvenient when they delay the plan. Once, they were dragging the time when we are supposed to catch the last train(as if they have more than 24 hours per day), and I returned home late thanks to them. -.- Is it normal im feeling they are taking for granted??, after being friends for so many years. Tell me what I should do to make them know the importance of being punctual, or at least not meeting so damn over time. Help me!

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  • Neapolitana
    11 years ago

    I am one of those always-late people unfortunately!! I am always apologizing for tardiness. I can tell you from my perspective that your friends are not purposely being disrespectful to you (even though it is rude). If you keep telling them that it hurts your feelings, they will prob get better and better.

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  • weirdleh
    11 years ago

    Yeah thanks. Alot of people told me to change friends. So I think I'll need to do that.

    But if I leave before they come on time, they will start quarreling and talk and talk and talk.

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  • joybird
    11 years ago

    My cousin is always late for lunch so I tell her I've booked the restaurant half an hour earlier than I really have.

    I, too, may have control issues but I do feel it is only good manners and politeness to be on time, or as near as possible. They may be taking it for granted that you will wait around for them. Just make sure you are waiting in your own home, or what I usually do, is go to the club or bar on my own, and tell them to meet me there. Then I don't care if they're late as I've already met new people! They also think they're missing something and rush to meet me. You need to show your independent streak so tell them if they're not there in half an hour you're either going out on your own, or going to visit family or another friend.

    I think that you should give them a taste of their own medicine some night when you don't really feel like going out. Keep telling them you'll be over ASAP when they call you to hurry up. After an hour and a half say you're not going to bother now and they should go on :o) Bet they'd hate that they've wasted time!!

    Don't let anyone waste your life hanging around like a lemon. Get on out and make the most of your time!! Make sure you get home safe and don't allow them to make you late for the train etc. Or find more reliable friends who respect you.

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  • confuseddotcom27
    11 years ago

    You may have control issues. I say this as I have similar concerns although not about lateness. There are plenty of online tests you can do to see if this applies. On the other hand maybe you just have low self esteem and feel you are being overlooked. Talk to them about how it makes you 'feel' rather than drag them over hot coals. If you've been friends for this long then I'm sure their lateness isn't directed at you for personal reasons.

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