Is it normal that i'm crying so hard because..

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I just found out that my fiancé of two years and the dad of my baby has never believed in me and does not believe that I'll become anything in my life other than a great mom. is it wrong that I'm so hurt and so upset by the fact that my man, the man I want to spend the rest my life with the one that i love doesn't believe in me I'm only 20 I have goals I want to be a cosmetologist. I had a baby six months ago he knows I have goal. Is this normal to be so hurt

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  • MRmr
    11 years ago

    I dont believe in you either.

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    • ccsissy
      11 years ago

      Your a jerk

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  • Lucyg123swag
    11 years ago

    Slap him. Tell him to screw. That you can pay your own bills. And become doctor and let him be a F-In stay at home dad

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  • Insubtle
    11 years ago

    Prove them all wrong and do whatever you want. Also, I'd say it's perfectly normal why that would hurt somebody.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    11 years ago

    He had his idea of what would make your family work best and you have yours. He could either be basing his opinions off of your strengths/weaknesses or he forgot to include your desires in his vision. Either way, you need to talk and compromise and set goals. Yes, it's normal to cry. This is something big that should probably have been communicated sooner.

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  • PapzBSlim
    11 years ago

    Why is he acting so harsh? Is this his way of constructive criticism to get you moving along with your goal?

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  • ccsissy
    11 years ago

    He knows I would love to be a full time mom but I also want a education as well idk

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  • frist
    11 years ago

    Sounds like he might feel threatened by you being anything else/more. Being a great parent is a wonderful thing, but not everyone finds it fulfilling to do full-time. Is there any chance he is saying this because he doesn't know how to ask you to commit to full-time parenting?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    It's normal to be hurt.

    It really sucks and I know a few women in your position but their mates are much more supportive. You need to talk to him and tell him about your action plan: what you want to do and when you want to do it.

    It is much easier for a person to take your goals seriously when you have clear cut aims rather than a general "I want to be a Cosmetologist".

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Yeah. Couples are suppose to help each other grow together not stunt one another. Don't give up your dream for anyone. I know this saying can get annoying but it's true, you only live once.

    Have a talk with him about how you are feeling, if he won't support you going to school for cosmetology do it on your own. It may be more difficult if he doesn't want to help you (taking care of and watching your child when you're studying) but you can still do it without his support. (Though it would be nice if he'd support your dream. :/ )

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Oh i hate it when that happens.

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