Is it normal that i'm crushing on my boss?

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So yeah, I guess this question has been asked so many times it hurts. But I think my case may be a little different. For starters, I'm 19 years old while the boss in question is around 45, I can't really be sure. I'm only working there for the summer, because I'm starting college in the fall and this is more or less an easy way to make a lot of money. So, the boss was supposed to show me around and train me so I wouldn't be completely helpless. And after a few weeks it kind of dawned on me that I might have a crush on him. "Luckily" (or not?) he isn't married or anything like that, but I don't even want to ask him anything in that general "crushing-direction" for fear of total embarrassment.

What I actually wanted to ask is this, though:
What do I do? He's started flirting with me and while I kind of want to flirt back, but my mind is just screaming at me that this guy could be my father and I should look at someone at least a decade younger.
But this is so strange, because even things that are usually a total no-go for me, don't really matter for me now (for example, I hate it when people smoke, yet it doesn't bother me at all with him, I feel like the cigarette belongs to him like another bodypart or something). It's so weird and I feel like my heart and head want me to go in different directions and sadly I can only go one way ...

So is it normal to crush "this hard" (because this is extremely hard for me) after just a few weeks and he's older and ... I'm just so confused.

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  • tommytalker
    12 years ago

    I have a dating rule. which is HALF PLUS 7.
    So if he is 45 according to my rule he can date (So its not a creepy old man pedo thing) a girl who is 22.5 + 7 = 29years old.

    Sorry - But he probably has clothing older than you- sounds like Infatuation to me!!!

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    This happens many times and I am sure he enjoys your attention, and feelings! For a short term this can be very exciting, but seldom works out long term. Only you know what you want out if this, so good luck with your choices!

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  • TheJackel
    12 years ago

    Wait it out. Might not be worth the risk of a job connection / life ruining. Sounds more like infatuation rather than something worth pursuing

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  • 53739
    8 years ago

    That is completely normal.

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  • reginaFalangi
    8 years ago

    It's normal but you should try to wait till this fades away.

    See it like this: what kind of adult man flirts with a girl your age?
    Most likely he's kind of creepy, or insecure, immature, or even trying to take advantage of the fact he always has younger employees.

    It will fade away, don't drive yourself crazy. Be patient and also try meetibg new friends. A cute boy would make you forget

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  • Darthion5
    11 years ago

    It's normal, but it's better to have a crush on a cartoon or a videogame character. That way, getting emotionally hurt is far less likely.

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