Is it normal that i'm confused about so many things in my life?

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Everything in my life is so confusing. I've been in a relationship for 5 months and I have so many mixed feelings about it it's crazy and I don't know what to do or if it's right. Ive just been thinking over the relationship a lot lately and I feel pressured to make a decision about that. Especially since a lot of my friends don't like him and it causes stress but I'm not going to break up with him just because my friends don't like him. I also feel pressured because I don't want it to be a year later and things don't work out and if I'm haveing doubts now then, I'm just not sure.
Because of my relationship and other things, my relationship with my best friend has been affected. We recently got into a fight but things are a little better now. It just made me question my relationship with my best friend too and how maybe it's not a stable thing either and now I'm worried about that too.
Its really hard for me because I am still young(20) and although I think I know what love feels like, im not too sure. I used to think I was in love with my best friend and I cried every night not knowing what she thought and just holding all the emotions inside. I did finally bring it up after a year of it eating inside me and at first i really didn't care that her answer was no. She at least took it really well and handled it well by saying she thinks of me as a sister. She did mention being bi though and that made me think well what's wrong with me then why wouldnt she want to be with me but some other girl. She hasn't had a partner yet in the time that I've known her but when she does I don't know how ill take it or what. Of course, I want her to be happy, I just wish I could be that person to make her happy.
I do love my boyfriend a lot and really Care about him. We have talked about if it ends can we still be friends and we agreed we could so, I don't want to hurt him but at least I know we can still be friends.
I just hate when I have time to think because my thoughts are all over the place and I'm still stressed even though my school semester is over. I thought I'd be less stressed but I'm not. I also had 40+ hours of work this week which I'm not used to and everything is all over with that.
I think I have identity issues too in finding who I am and if I'm happy.

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  • Holzman67
    10 years ago

    My advice would be try not to fret. Throughout different stages of our lives we direct our time and attention to different people and right now that person is your boyfriend. You said you loved him, if you really mean that forget about the external pressures. If your friends were friends they will see how you feel about him and learn to accept him. Do they have good reason not to like him? If it is petty or born out of jealousy then don't let that bother you at all.

    Also, your friend who you had deeper feelings for who knocked you back, don't worry about it. Sounds like she doesn't want a relationship to spoil what a special friendship you have. It is common. I often get really close to girls as friends and they tell me the same thing. Relationships are complicated things anyway, friendships are amazing. Sorry for the read I hope this is of some help to you.

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    • confusion123
      10 years ago

      Thanks for the advice. And thanks for taking the time to read the post. I almost didn't post it because just writing it out helped and I was afraid no one would read it because it's so long but thank you. I'll try not to think of things as much and just go with the flow more.

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      • Holzman67
        10 years ago

        My pleasure, sometimes that's all you need to do to clear your head, express yourself in some way, get your thoughts out. Also going for a walk is good!

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  • kupokupo
    10 years ago

    I DON'T KNOW HOW TO ANSWER THE QUESTION OH GOD.

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  • kateykins
    10 years ago

    It's perfectly normal to be confused about all of those things. Sexuality is fluid, relationships are hard, and life's a bitch sometimes. Try to think positive, do what you think will make you happy, and you'll end up all right.

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  • jax906
    10 years ago

    The best quote I've heard in my 20s: "Life is never going to be the same thing as you think it's supposed to be". Don't worry- be happy.

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  • loopoo
    10 years ago

    Normal, just ride the waves.

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  • Janie2T
    10 years ago

    Yeah, very normal, alas.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    See,this is the typical situation for a bi girl. Confused and mixed feelings, unstable mindset and ever changing attitude and preferences. It's girls like you i avoid the most because you can't even make up your mind on what you like. Bi girls are the worst for relationships. They are so unstable and eventually they cheat with whoever they know, men or women. That is exactly your situation. If your best friend would someday confess her feelings and attraction towards you, you probably would cheat on your boyfriend with her.
    I don't get the guys who are into bi girls. I mean, is there a chance for a threesome? Hell no! The best thing you get is being cheated on and left. Bisexual chicks are just good for a quick fuck. And most bi girl end up being complete lesbians anyway.

    I feel bad for your boyfriend. Do him a favor and end the relationship so he doesn't waste his time with someone like you.

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    • kateykins
      10 years ago

      Bisexual people aren't flighty or unreliable because of their sexual orientation. The OP didn't say she was bisexual or say she was going around screwing a bunch of people - she said she was CONFUSED. Having feelings for a person you're close to, no matter what gender, is perfectly normal and is in no way connected to bisexual women being unstable. And ignorant comments like this don't help, especially if she thinks she DOES like more than just men.

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    • Maggie2000
      10 years ago

      You don't sound like you are an understanding person at all. You are ignornant, rude and unpleasant.

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    • confusion123
      10 years ago

      I would never cheat on my boyfriend.

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  • Mr.Hate
    10 years ago

    Fuck the milkman on your way out.

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  • ygrowup
    10 years ago

    Although normal to be confuse at this age somewhat, it really seems like you are more than that! Don't think so much and just enjoy things, try to make time for your friends, because you will always need some to lean on. The ones that do not support your relationship are just jealous over the time you spend with him or really not true friends. Good luck with your choices

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    • confusion123
      10 years ago

      Thank you for the advice ill try my best to stop thinking so much.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Thats a lot to be confused about.

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