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I've always been shy and insecure, especially in social situations and I go between extreme highs and lows with my self perception, but I always expect people to see me very positively and get disappointed/angry if they don't. It's like I hate me, but I want the whole world to adore me and be ready to do anything for me because I'm somehow worth it.
I think insecurity and arrogance often go together for exactly the sort of reasons you talked about. If you're insecure, you doubt your own worth, then it would make sense to want to talk yourself up to compensate for that fact.
I feel like I can relate to this on a very, very personal level. Yet that's probably because I'm sort of filling up the blanks to the parts of your post that I don't understand. The way I see it, it's like you're shy person and insecure, but you put on this confident visage, that might come off as arrogant, in order to mask your insecurity. Honestly that's what I do because I'm very insecure, and I want people to like me so I try to come off as a nice person but I might also be shy. But the more you get to know me the more arrogant I might look; even though I try so hard to be a good person or at least come off like I am.
OP, if you feel how I feel then I can't provide you with an answer to whether how we act is normal, common, or what have you. But I can provide solidarity and say that you're not alone.
Well, that's a part of me.Like, I look quite polite, maybe a bit intimidating at first.Then I'm nice and fun for a while, till they truly get to know me and they slowly become more and more aware of my arrogance and sense of entitlement.When a person gets to talk to me in my darkest moments, only then can they see that I'm actually deeply insecure.
Join the club. It doesn't take long for me to spill my life story at you. I try so hard to not come off as a douche though you have no idea. But what you're saying I can relate to. It sounds like you try to come off as a good person though and I think that's what really matters.
We would probably get along in real life. It would be cool to actually meet some the users on here.
I agree with you. You actually seem pretty chill. I used the word "actually" because your name might suggest otherwise to some people, but I've seen the advice you give sometimes and it's good. Also I've seen some of the other things you've written about yourself, like how in actuality you're a normal guy. You seem like a chill guy, as I said, and yeah it would be great to meet some users on here.