Is it normal that i'm attracted to women but love having gay sex?

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I'm in a straight relationship, I'm physically attracted to females and I occasionally enjoy having sex with men. I am not physically attracted to guys and I could never be in a gay relationship. I also don't get an erection when I'm having sex with a guy, only girls. I don't understand that. I'm fine with saying I'm bisexual and I like having sex with men. I want to be hard during it, but it just never works. Has this happened to anyone else?

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  • Ekho
    11 years ago

    Since you don't get hard with a guy I'm assuming you're a bottom. Plenty of guys don't get hard when they're being rammed. A majority of the time, getting an erection and sustaining it is all in the head. You're probably just head-fucked from all the homophobic bullshit mainstream society is shoving down your throat - try a hard cock instead.

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    • bosbottom69
      11 years ago

      Yes, I am a total bottom when it comes to sex with guys. I've seen some gay porn where some guys are hard while getting fucked and some guys are not, so I know my problem is common, which is why I asked if anyone else had this problem. I am just curious if anyone had this happen and found a way to fix it. I'm really not headfucked. I could care less what people say or think of me. I am happy being me and I actually feel very lucky that I can enjoy more sexually than most other people. What do you mean by "try a hard cock instead"?

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      • Ekho
        11 years ago

        Haha, just me kidding around. You sound like a decent bloke who knows your own mind, good on ya! As to the soft cock issue, look at it this way, we're hard wired to concentrate on one thing at a time, so if you're concentrating on the sensations in your lower orifice, you may not be able to put your focus on staying hard. Keep in mind though, you don't need to be hard to enjoy anal sex, neither do you need to be hard to be horny. True story bro.

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  • quentari
    11 years ago

    Try doing different things with guys in the bedroom to get hard, oral sex maybe? handjobs or switching positions could help too.

    Just don't feel like you HAVE to fit societies view on bisexuals. You're allowed to have a preference. You're allowed to be romantically attracted to one and sexually to another.

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    • bosbottom69
      11 years ago

      I have tried different things like letting a guy blow me and fucking a guy, but I just didn't get into it. I like being the one to suck a guy off and or get fucked. I just want to know if anyone has had this issue and got over it. I really don't want the guy I'm with thinking I'm not into him or what we are doing.

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      • quentari
        11 years ago

        Is it possible that it's not the guy sex you're enjoying, but rather the STYLE of sex? have you ever tried doing anal with a woman wearing a strap-on and you being bottom? maybe try it and see if that helps. If not then it may be that you're subconscious isn't allowing you to enjoy anal or sex with guys properly, but I wouldn't know why.

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        • bosbottom69
          11 years ago

          yes ive tried it with a woman and it was totally not the same. Although I am not physically attracted to men like looks wise, I do enjoy certain things like their bodies and especially their dicks. I really do enjoy the sex, that's what is confusing. I love giving head, getting fucked, kissing and swallowing cum. So it's not the syle of sex. I love being with a man sexually.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    Maybe you only like men as freinds?

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    • bosbottom69
      11 years ago

      Yes, I have never been physically attracted to guys, just sexually. I would, however, like to find a guy that I could have a sexual relationship with. I think I could do that.

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  • GreyWulfen
    11 years ago

    You're simply bisexual with a strong tendency for the opposite gender. If you can't stay hard, ever considered using a cock ring?
    But you can't really force being "more towards the same gender". Either you are, or you are not.

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    • bosbottom69
      11 years ago

      I've never tried a cock ring. I have tried viagra and that works if I am able to play with myself while giving a guy a blow job or getting anal sex. It's very frustrating, because I'm totally into it when I do it and I don't want the guy to think that I'm not into him or I'm not enjoying myself, because I really am. I don't force being with either gender. I do prefer females more, but occasionally I like to have sex with guys.

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