Is it normal that i'm anxious about this?

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I'm meeting with a group of friends ( and acquaintances) from high school, I haven't seen most of them for 3-4 years and I'm really nervous, I feel they've all moved on and got a job responsibilities etc and I just haven't, Ifeel llike I've got nothing to talk about, plus my mate is saying that as a sort of birthday present him and someone else are paying for everything, I immediately just think they feel sorry for me not having money or much to do for my b,day and it makes me cringe other people spending money on me as I have none it makes me feel bad, is it normal to feel nervous about seeing them again and is it normal to feel like a few the two mates paying ( one of which I last saw 3 years ago) are just feeling sorry for me?

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Worrying about your friends feeling sorry for you or pitying you is understandable but please don't dwell on those anxieties. Be grateful and appreciative of their kindness and generosity. It is truly a blessing to have good friends who love and care for you.

    Many people have nothing and no one. Please try not to get too much into your ego and instead accept that you are blessed and be grateful.

    You don't have to be meek or kiss your friends' feet. A simple thank you and or a card or letter afterwards will suffice. If this experience is humbling you and you're wrestling with those feelings you can choose to be grateful to God and or the Universe for putting such good friends in your life as well.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    You might want to consider whether these friends are happy in their "moving on".
    Taking your time and "moving on" at your own pace is not a bad thing. Success shouldn't be measured by income or possessions, but it is.
    Most would consider me a total failure; I've never owned a house, a new car or worn stylish clothes. I've spent my whole life playing, on boats. I've put my kids through college and secured my retirement, but other than that, I've done nothing our society would consider as normal. The only address I have is a PO Box and the powers that be frown on that, big time!
    Don't worry so much about what others think, if you are happy doing what you are doing.

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  • Holzman_67
    10 years ago

    The thing with insecurity is that we compare all our behind the scenes to everyone else's highlight reel.

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    • peterr
      10 years ago

      Oh how fucking poignant!

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Just be glad you have some friends and enjoy them.

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  • Goomats
    10 years ago

    I feel you there! I am a woman/child/failure...I kind of remind myself of a female non-drunk Gary King from "At World's End". I can't seem to get ahead in life and it makes me nervous at reunions.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    While it's certainly normal for you to feel that way, it sounds to me like you have some decent and gracious friends, who enjoy your company.

    ...that can be hard to come by. Enjoy your time with them.

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    It's normal to feel anxious about it but look at it this way they are showing they care so you must have some thing going for you. You didn't say when you would be meeting them but what if between now and then you do everything you can to get a job or apply for a course or even if you just line up an interview.

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