Is it normal that i'm an eighteen year old male without a girlfriend?

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I'm eighteen years old and just haven't had a girlfriend... it's not that I'm unattractive because that's just not true (I'm just being honest)... I workout regularly, have been called "jacked" so many times it makes me sick, and still I just don't get it. I can't help it, but every chick in this world seems to be just a hologram or bundle of lies. I'm not awkward around girls, I just can't take the depth, I need something more than that. Girls use the word love more than anyone, yet I haven't seen one that understands that concept. I don't know, but I just can't stand it because everyone is fake and no one understands the depth of my personality... I want a girl, but I need to be attracted to her physically and emotionally, otherwise it's meaningless. I work all my weekends so I don't get to party with my friends at college who want me to, so it seems I can never make a connection... is it normal to feel this depressed over not having a girlfriend at this age for this specific reason? And if you are a cute girl with a deep personality then by all means let me know.

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  • abominus566
    12 years ago

    sometimes it takes time, someone may be waitng for the day that they meet you. patience is key for this one

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Have you tried? Because if you haven't tried, you haven't lived.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    You're still young.

    Perhaps you should consider that it may also mean you haven't met any girl worth dating yet. Does it mean there's something wrong with you for not settling for less than what you want?

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  • Audrina
    12 years ago

    i did not mean to piss you off. You start out by boasting your greatness, then go on to trash females. i am not going to break your post down piece by piece, read it again yourself. If you get angry over comments posted on IIN, how do you react when a girl says something unsettling to your face? Your personality and expectations are probably a big reason as to why you can"t find a girlfriend. Is having one really that big of a priority at this point in your life? You are 18 years old. This is the time in your life when you should be out having fun, not tied down in a relationship.

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    • Just_Another_Soul
      12 years ago

      alright then ill compromise: the girls ive been with act like that, but certainly not all girls because i know there are good ones out there still, but im not as much of an ass as i came out to be. when i reread my post it sounded like i boasted too much and that wasn't supposed to be the point.

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      • Audrina
        12 years ago

        I don't think there is any magic number of girls that you have to date before you find the right one. My suggestion to you would be to continue doing the things you love to do and talk to the girls that you meet that like doing those things as well. If you are not doing any chick friendly things, try expanding your horizons. I am sure that over time you will find someone that you actually ENJOY being around.

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  • Rufus
    12 years ago

    You're probably just not enough of an asshole to attract women. They seem to like men who are simple-minded, drug abusers, and positively ill with despicable character traits.

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  • carterjm4
    12 years ago

    Its hard to find honest people in general. You really just need to let faith and timing lead you to the one you will be with. I am 20 and I have been in many unfulfilling relationships so I know how you feel. People abuse the word love and mix it with sex to get a whole bundle of false perceptions of their relationship. I say wait it out. there is no rush, you are young, and from the sounds of it you definitely sound like my type ;)

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  • Audrina
    12 years ago

    You sound like one big walking contradiction. I think you would irritate the hell out of anyone with an IQ over 50. Sorry.

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    • Just_Another_Soul
      12 years ago

      if you can successfully explain a single contradiction i depicted then by all means try... unfortunately for you i have a feeling that if you do respond you will get completely annihilated in a logical argument. Sorry.

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      • flutterhigh
        12 years ago

        You say the issue isn't your looks as if that's the only requirement for getting a girlfriend, which is exactly the kind of mentality you call "fake" and shallow in girls.

        Basically you're saying: "Why can't I get a girl? I'm fucking BUFF. GOD THEY'RE SO SHALLOW."

        You blame everything on "them", and you don't think even for a second that there could possibly be any problem with you. Maybe THEY think YOU lack depth. I do.

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        • Just_Another_Soul
          12 years ago

          But that isn't what I'm saying at all... my whole point was that if I wanted to, I could get a girlfriend because I'm not ugly or awkward, but the girls that I attract just don't seem to be deep, so I feel depressed that I can't get a meaningful girlfriend. People see my personality clearly, but the girls only respond to my looks or something which gets me the wrong chicks... Idk, I'm just responding to your hostile earlier comment that was clearly meant to piss me off. and you don't know me at all, so i don't exactly care what you think about my depth or not.

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  • thatstrangegirl
    12 years ago

    You have no idea how much hope you have given me for guys in this world. All I get is guys who want something shallow; who are more interested in my boobs than anything I have to say. I'm so glad that there actually are guys my age who have some depth to their personality and would actually have real conversations with me. No, you're not normal, but that's because 'normal' guys aren't as amazing as you are.

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    • stonecutters93
      12 years ago

      I'd like to point out there are amazing guys in this world. However I've noticed they always get overlooked, because the type of guy you describe is an asshole, and in this day in age wins the girl far more than they should. Nice guys will treat you with respect, give you the world and worship you for life. But it's just not what girls look for these days. It's a shame.

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      • Just_Another_Soul
        12 years ago

        true^

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    lol how can you say you don't understand the depth when you don't even know a girl well enough to see the depth? sounds like you're lowkey gay, man.

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    • Just_Another_Soul
      12 years ago

      ive known many girls well enough actually, and none are worth it. i understand the depth in completeness too, because in most situation it's absent. im not denying that there are probably some decent girls out there, but i'm constantly turned off as soon as a cute one starts to speak in my past experiences.

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        you obviously don't because the only way what your describing can be possible is if you literally live in a town full of the mentally handicapped. I think your standards are just through the roof and it isn't getting you anywhere. jesus I wonder how high they were when you were a kid?

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        • Just_Another_Soul
          12 years ago

          lol, when you dont read my post and just use impulse/emotion to comment, why the hell are you even on this site? if you wouldve read you would know that i said that none of the girls ive been with are worth it and you have no idea because you dont know them. if you dont understand what im saying then dont comment.

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          • [Old Memory]
            12 years ago

            I did read your post. I also read the other comments associated with it. I just don't see how that is possible unless YOU are doing something wrong. you probably just turn the cards around to make it seem like you're the victim. this shit is getting old.

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            • Just_Another_Soul
              12 years ago

              well the first signs of someone commenting without thought and instead with impulse are usually stuff that sounds like "lowkey gay" or "how high they were when you were a kid" it's funny because when someone has nothing to back up a comment other than emotion, they tend to get more aggressive and obnoxious.

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    • mateo
      12 years ago

      do you know what freerunning is? do you know what red bull is? dont you know im fuckin' famous bitch...i might only be 5'5"...but that doesnt matter when red bull gives me 10,000 dollars just to take some stupid pictures

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  • PapzBSlim
    11 years ago

    You do not need to go and find a girl on the weekend. If you are trying to find a good girl like you are saying, finding one at a party in college usually but not always, the right place. How about finding a girl in class or one at the gym. Go to a library and find a cute and intelligent girl. Find one who is at work. So many places to find girls. Any how, do not look for a specific girl, the correct situation will find you one.

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  • TheBirdofEndlessNoiseandChaos
    12 years ago

    Really dude, wouldnt worry bout it. Itll happen one day. Maybe just try puttin yourself in more situations where you'd have a chance to talk and get to know a girl.

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  • SEWnanist23
    12 years ago

    The teen years are very competitive, indimidating and it's because of the raging hormones. Just about all of the alpha males get the women but only few betas in their teens do. I was rather beta myself.

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  • Darkoil
    12 years ago

    A recent study showed that it is the male that usually says the l word first. Forget about the emotion side, once you have your penis inside a girl none of that will matter anyways.

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