Is it normal that i'm always afraid of dating?

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When I date, I'm ALWAYS forced into it. Someone asks me if they want to go out with them, and I can't help but feel it would be rude if I said "no fuck off". Then when I date them, I'm always scared and afraid of how to act and what to say. It's just a big, complicated, frustrating experience; After that, I'm afraid to break up with them, so I try to get them to break up with me by constantly avoiding them.

To recap, I'm always nervous and introverted when in a relationship with anyone, no matter who they are; it's not that they intimidate me, it's just some sort of underlying instinct.

Is this normal? Do I just not date from now on and just stick to random sex?

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Based on 46 votes (37 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Well it is normal for example I hate people and dating involves people ! hehe

    But seriously just tell them that yoo are busy "that day" and have a lazy day with a face mask, bubble bath and some ice cream (: x

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    12 years ago

    Why have so many people said this is normal!?!?!? WTF seriously!

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    • AusDingo
      12 years ago

      Agreed, some of us would like to be dated. Vigorously.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    I kinda do the same thing. I don't know why but I just ... I don't know. Its weird. My friend says that if theres one thing he dislikes about me, its my lack of commitment. But the thing is, that I really do wanna commit, but just to someone that I really like. Someone I don't feel forced to go out with. And it seems like most of the time, the ones that wanna commit are the ones I'd rather not commit to. And then it seems like if I say no in the nicest way I possibly can, I'm made to feel guilty about it, because the person I said no to goes on about it. So then I'm forced to say yes, and then its an uncomfortable situation for me. :(

    I understand how you feel though. I never thought dating could be so hard. But when the feelings just aren't there, I can't make myself move forward. And I'm actually in this predicament with two different people right now. I'm not dating either one, but they both are giving me shit about not giving them a chance. One of them I actually did give a chance to, but it ended after like a month or so, because I just couldn't let myself move forward. Plus, he kind of moved too fast for me so it wasn't gonna work anyway.

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  • tbiM20
    12 years ago

    Be yourself. If you don't feel comfortable going on a date, you can refuse without saying fuck off. Feeling obligated is what is putting tension in the relationships; if you find someone you dont feel pressured to date, the relationship will be much more enjoyable.

    Though enjoyable, random sex is not so healthy, with STD's and all that.

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  • Monogamy_Sucks
    12 years ago

    Seems to me like u just cant seem to put that face mask everyone puts on their first dates...i think u wanna be urself and therefore this makes u nervous and just dont wanna bother with the whole ordeal.Jutst relax,when the time is right ull feel it inside ur heart

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