Is it normal that i'm afraid to marry someone abroad?

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Ok here we go. i have been socially online for about 5-6 years. i have met almost all kinda people from around the world. sometimes i put special feelings on them. then.... for the last 1-2 years, i have been afraid to fall in love. call me old school but i take relationship seriously. if the person just wants to play around with me, i better leave. but in the beginning of this year, i met someone special from Libya. i never felt anything before with him but lately he said it first "i love you because bla bla bla". he is one of only few men that can make me comfortable and being myself. ok shortly i finally feel the same. but i'm still afraid if he only plays around so i won't expect much but unfortunately i remember him since i wake up in the morning til bed time at night. we Skype alot.

and then... come another one, a man from Sweden. he would like to go to my country to see my family on June or July, if everything is ok. he seems a man who's serious and won't play. his orientation is marriage. i'm still not sure about the Sweden man because we haven't talked alot and i havent felt the comfort like i feel with the Libyan man. please guys, any words? :(

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Depending on how advantageous a marriage/citizenship could be for them, I would be suspicious too. I wouldn't want to be desired for my potential as a 'green card'. Sweden, however, has one of the best standards of living in the whole world, so I would be less suspicious of their motives in that case.

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    • Middlefinger
      10 years ago

      ok as i remember what he told me, he is a spanish originally but born and raised in Sweden. and if i got married with him, maybe or for sure i'd get taken to Sweden also, right? is there any possibility that he will move to my country after married?

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        I think you need to ask him that question. I really have no idea if he will move to your country if you are married.

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        • shuggy-chan
          10 years ago

          are you gonna make me move after the wedding =O

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    It's normal to be afraid to meet a spouse this way because meeting a potential spouse in this manner is not normal in fact it's dangerously desperate and pathetic. This a good way to find a predator, a con man, a weirdo, a creep, etc.

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    • Middlefinger
      10 years ago

      yeah and if, just if, i said "no" to the swedish man after he came to me and my family, i'd feel really guilty. i meant he comes from faraway abroad only for my bussiness. and i think i better decide now if he is the right person for me or not, before he comes here later and my answer is only "NO". i have to decide, so when he comes here yet, my answer is "yes".

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  • lene
    10 years ago

    to me i prefer sweden man coz arabs r sometimes not serious their nature
    ifu ask my opinon give time to know better the sweden man

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    • Middlefinger
      10 years ago

      yeah i know that reality, actually i'm an arabian as well but my origin is different. not Libyan or KSA. my whole family, my people and myself take relationships seriously, not for playing around. when we like someone, our men try to marry their women. most of us are still on that track :)

      and i know most arabians are like. and thats why i'm not sure about this Libyan. when he said "i love you", i didnt answer the same, eventhough i tried my hardest not to say it. because i was unsure. my answer was "ok you love me. take it what if i answer the same? what would we do anyway? you're gonna marry me?" he was just smiling with confused and unsure also on his face. maybe because i was also too spontaneous.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Then don't do it silly beans.

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    • Middlefinger
      10 years ago

      i dont need this kinda answer.

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