Is it normal that i'm afraid of talking to guys?

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I'm 17, have long straight brown hair, green eyes and am a skinny tall girl. I have normal interests and likes, I'm just an ordinary person. I just graduated on high school and will go to college in March of next year, but I've still never really talked to a guy before and I know it may sounds stupid but it's true. The only boys I've talked to was when I was younger and they were either my neighbors or my family's friend son. Even was I just a kid, they always tried to have something more with more, even was it just a kiss or more. I've always been a shy kid and I guess that made me more scared than I already was with other kid. My family always told me to never talk to strangers or with old men, even with eldest ones. They always said not every elderly man where nice. I've always been intimidated about that, and I it just got worse when a boy who used to be like a cousin to me touched me. I just grew up afraid of boys and thinking they all want something more with the girls they talk to. Never has a boy came to have a talk with me, they just flirt and I'm always afraid they want something more. I've never kissed a guy or really have a talk with one. Despite, I'm not afraid of eye contact flirting with a guy if I know he won't come talk to me. I just don't know what to do and knowing I'm going to college next year makes me even more anxious about that because I have no experience with boys at all. Despite this, I'm not a shy girl anymore, just with boys of my age. I'm very lovable with everyone. Some girls make fun of me because of that all but they don't know how hard is it and I know my friends wouldn't understand me. I have no one to talk about it.

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  • (s)aint
    8 years ago

    Sadly most of the guys approaching you will want to flirt or get in your pants ... I´m really annoyed by this fact as well.
    BUT this does not mean that the flirtatious guy will harm you or do anything you dislike.
    You should challenge yourself to try to talk to guys more, in public or in larger groups- They are not all pigs.

    A suggestion could be to start talking to shy and awkward guys, those that wouldn't dare to hit on a girl even if their lives depended on it.

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  • green_boogers
    8 years ago

    When you are at parties, try to talk to shy unattractive guys. They will appreciate your initiative.

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  • 53739
    8 years ago

    Lots of boys and men who try to approach and talk to you might do so because they find you attractive, but they won't necessarily want to get into your pants or take advantage of you. Sometimes guys just like being around pretty women.

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