Is it normal that i'm afraid of having sex?

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I'm a girl, 24 and a virgin, and have always been scared to have sex. There's a comforting safety in knowing that I have a 0% risk of pregnancy or STDs, and a much smaller risk of cervical cancer. I also just think the act of sex seems scary and gross. I would have absolutely no idea what to do, and I know I would feel dirty and probably regret it afterwards. It seems like it would be painful too, and I'm not even comfortable being naked in front of anyone. I'm grossed out by my body and a lot about the way the female body works in general, so I think I would feel disgusting.

I wasn't raised in a super strict household that enforced any of these beliefs, this is just the way I've always been.

There is absolutely no way I can force myself to do it anyway, but I would love to be normal and not feel this way, and to be able to share a relationship with someone. I have avoided dating, since I don't feel it's fair to be in a relationship and withhold sex. I don't think I'm asexual since I do have physical attraction towards men, I am just scared of sex.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    normal? yes and no. I think once you find someone you love and are comfortable with it will be easy. My first time was bad, but now I love it an am good at it. more you do it the better it is.

    Just be smart! rain coats are a must.

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    • [Old Memory]
      5 years ago

      But are the rain boots optional?

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      • [Old Memory]
        5 years ago

        IS STD's optional? keep em on.

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        • [Old Memory]
          5 years ago

          noted

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  • TerriAngel
    5 years ago

    Use protection.
    Whats so hard about that?
    Risks?
    Where do you live that life isnt already filled with a hundred risks each day?
    Slip in the shower, hit your head.
    eat a salad, the kale had a virus.
    Cross the street, a car runs a red light.
    point is, fear is no way to live.

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  • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
    5 years ago

    Start exploring your clit and watching porn

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