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It would be so ankward for both..and what makes someone's good in bed and someone's bad ? Is it innate ?
Nobody has an innate talent for sex. It is a learned activity. You are not going to learn anything from the internet or by asking others; we are all different, so experience is your only option.
I see only two ways you can gain that if you wish to avoid the embarrassing, unsatisfying, fumbling around that comes from two inexperienced lovers.
You can go find yourself an older, experienced lover and have some fun. There are plenty of divorcees out there who would be happy teaching a young buck the 'facts of life'.
Alternately, a call girl or prostitute is how many young guys get introduced into the game. Be sure to learn all about 'safe sex' and don't go picking up some street hooker for this. It's worth every penny to go with some classy gal the first few times.
Good luck and have fun.
Some good advice in the posts further up this thread. Be sensitive. Don't rush her or yourself. Be imaginative!Remember her clit feels a bit like the uncovered glans of your penis and treat it accordingly.
don't worry, the first girl I fucked wasn't a virgin and she guided me to do what she wanted, how she wanted.
By the time I fucked a virgin I knew how to properly pleasure a women - she was a born again Christian, saving herself for her day in white, but I worked on her for hours and finally she let me fuck her, she was tight and I came inside her.
One piece of advice: do not try to imitate anything you have seen in porn. That sex is unrealistic and if you try to model your moments after it you're setting yourself up for disappointment. It is very unlikely that you will make a girl cum from just ramming your dick inside her, or eating her out half-assed. If your goal is to just get your nut, then do whatever feels good for you. If you want sex to be really enjoyable, observe your partner. Watch how her body responds to your touch. Observe EVERYTHING. More often than not, women will reciprocate what you do to them and if you do it well they will do the same.
So, here are some tips:
1. When eating a girl out do not "paint the fence". This is that terrible act in porn where they flick the clit rapidly with their tongue while spreading the labia. It is a very awkward pleasure and can even be painful for some women. If you're going to eat her out then do it like you can't get enough of her. Dive right in. Suck on her clit, finger her (make sure your finger nails are groomed), tease her by kissing her labia, make her beg you for more. Not comfortable with eating a girl out? That's fine! But, remember there are some women who won't go down on you if you don't go down on them.
2. Unless it is a quickie, make sure you build up to penetration. It will be much enjoyable for the two of you, as you will be eager and she will be as well. If you stimulate her properly during foreplay, you will be treated to a very well lubricated vagina that has the potential to enhance both of your orgasms! A dry pussy is very unpleasant for both parties.
3. If she is hurting you, tell her. We've all been in awkward situations where our partner is hurting us and we're thinking, should we tell them? YES! Don't endure the pain, tell her what she is doing wrong and even show her what feels good. If you're hurting her and she tells you, don't be embarrassed. It happens and I'm sure it has happened to everyone.
4. Just relax and let whatever happens, happen. Don't try and be a pornstar and don't force anything. It makes sex tense and you will not enjoy it. If you relax and let loose your orgasm will be much better. Just try to be fluid in the bedroom but don't actually try if you know what I mean? It's your first time, there is no pressure to be a messiah. You will learn as you progress. We were all in your situation at once. Don't sweat it!
The best male lovers that I have had were good at it because they asked me what I like and adjusted their, err, performance accordingly. Luckily for them, I have a ahem, fair amount of experience in bed so I'm quite aware of what I like and how to treat a virgin to get the best results but I'm a rare case because I like to fuck a lot...
If you find a virgin, then sex will be equally awkward and understandable. If you find a woman who has had past partners then she should be more than willing to understand that, as a virgin, you're not going to be a freakin' beast in the sheets just yet.
You're going to be bad at it at first. You get better with experience. That's the good thing about losing it to a girlfriend/boyfriend. They don't care you're inexperienced and you get lots of practice
Don't underestimate yourself ,though it will be your first time then after am sure there will be an improvement