Is it normal that i'm 22 but i've never been kissed or had sex?

I'm a 22 year old girl and I've never been with anyone in my life romantically. I've never dated, kissed, or had sex with anyone. I don't think I'm physically unattractive and a lot of my guy friends (who are in relationships) tell me that I'm really funny and chill to hang out with.

I've read a lot of similar questions but it always seems like other people get asked out but they shy away from the people asking them out. I'm also a shy person but the problem is I don't think I've ever had anyone interested in me. All throughout high school, all my friends were getting attention from guys but I never got any sort of romantic attention. Even in college I never got asked out, flirted with, etc.

I really don't know what I'm doing wrong and I'm really worried that I will never find a boyfriend at this rate...

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  • Anime7

    Maybe somebody had a thing for you in highschool but he just never worked up the nerve to ask you out.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs

    Hey don't worry bro, I'll take you out on a date.

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  • ygrowup

    Some girls are just special like you, to the point of guys thinking they are out of their league or intimidating. Also being shy does hold you back, so the next time someone chats with you, flash them a smile and let them know your interested

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  • amaterasu

    It is the XXI century. If you want something from a guy, you should show interest and maybe even go as far as asking a guy out or something. Men are simple-minded, most guys will take a chance with any girl if they can... unless the girl is a psycho, too clingy or something else... but I am sure you are not... right?

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  • shuggy-chan

    high school is pfffft. I don't think people start becoming how they will eventually be till outside of it. im still getting there and im 24. Just go with the flow and try to be friendly. what do you do, college? work? what skills have you developed since high school?

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  • willyma

    i hate to give the stereotypical advice of 'all you need is confidence' but it helps.

    try going to more social gatherings, and maybe even become the chaser (i know this is allot harder for a girl).

    go to a club.. its easy to get a kiss there. however if you want a boyfriend. try making allot of guy friends (WHO ARE SINGLE DURRRR) good luck. you seem like a nice girl :)

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  • girl19

    im 19 and a girl and i'm in the same situation. it sucks and is kind of depressing

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    • Anthony415

      Well you don't have to be lots of girls say what they want a good bf who will love them but when a guy who doses like them cums the girls don't wanna all girls look at and look for are looks and other stupid Sht like I'm 17 gonna b 18 in a few weeks and I really a loving guy and I want a real relationship but girls just don't seen to care they just want a good looking guy that's all they care about good looking guys who are asshole's 85% of good looking guys are assholes who will flirt with other girls and cheat because they're no that girls would want them so talk to,the right guys the guys who will love u for u and not use you just for sex

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  • jespanski86

    I'm gonna straight up fuck you in the ass.

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  • JW18xx

    I'm 18 and i'm pretty much in the same situation, i think the advice from people about being patient is all we can really do and as we haven't seemed to have much bad feedback from people maybe it is as not reading the signals. I have an example, i had my prom a couple of weeks ago and at the venue everyone was able to be served because everyone was pretty much eighteen ( i'm from England). So most people were pretty drunk and that's when i found out on that one night from two particular guys themselves that they had at different points had big crushs on me through the years and i had on them to , so i guess you might be like me a bit shy who has never read things right, good luck.

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  • Perraman

    In the same way, I thought that nobody had ever been interested in me, until one of my friends opened up to me about a crush. Anyways, I've been told that I'm not really good at reading signals. Maybe you're the same? If not, then its only a matter of time before someone asks you out. Be patient.

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  • MeOhMyra

    I'm 23 and I've never had a girlfriend, kissed a girl, hugged a girl etc. I'm not really too fussed about it, though. It's probably partly my fault considering I never go to parties as I hate large social gatherings. I much prefer going round a mates where there's only me and two or three other people that I actually like. Funnily enough, one of my other mates is gay and has never had a boyfriend and my other mate (that's right, I only have two mates) has gone out with maybe two people. I guess we're just unlucky.

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  • I'm in the same situation

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  • devil-in-skirt

    i am 21 i have one disgusting kiss with a guy when i am 20 and have kissed a girl this year and we had sex a bit we were in relation but we broke up so i think ur not that late ur 22 ! ... mmm abt "u have never kissed" it is normal but asking out that is not normal... for 22 years old girl i guess u don't care abt ur look or behavior so just think abt y they do not ask u out and work on it if u want ! and have self-conceit, when u feel ur not physically attractive guys will feel that and u will not attract any

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  • devil-in-skirt

    it is normal even if it is not

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  • IBMelissaG

    It's normal. Some of my friends are like that, and some of them have had many boyfriends. The one thing to do is to go for the type of guys you like. If you just want sex, offer a cute guy a BJ, it works. Do what feels natural for you.

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  • voges

    Guys are attracted by physical beauty. If you want guys to flock to you, you need to:

    - make sure you watch your weight
    - wear fashionable clothes
    - have your hair done nicely eg long, straight etc
    - wear make up and a bit of perfume

    This should get you started.

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    • ScooterNyne

      while it's true guys make the first move based off of physical attractiveness, these tips sound like things YOU are interested in.

      For a more general populous... just be clean and keep your hygiene.

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  • PureLikeSnow

    I find it to be normal.

    If you see a guy you like, make a move. It's counter-intuitive, but it clearly displays your confidence and that'll make them more interested in you. Keep this in mind: Men don't like women who are coy. It's a turn-off and it feeds the 'Guys must approach women at all costs, not the other way around' unwritten rule. Join a club or find a new social circle, you're bound to find guys that you may like and vice-versa.

    Don't blame yourself, just try and the results will surprise you. :D

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  • evilduckling

    normal. i'm a 21 year old guy in the same situation.

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    • AbnormalFuckUp

      You two should date then.

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  • AnotherNormalGuy

    Well, I'm 30 years old and in the same boat as you. Odds are that you've met more than one guy already that is exactly the same as you that thinks he doesnt have a chance in hell of you accepting a date with him after he asks you. ;^)

    Do me a favor, the next guy you see that you are at least a little attracted to, that you think might be staring at you as if he's looking at the Mona Lisa, give him a sweet smile. Guys like me love that a lot! ^_^

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  • ChloSheldon

    Aww shame I'd kiss you even tho I'm a girl :) Ino this might sound abit weird but I've always wanted to try les sex!! <3

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  • robbieforgotpw

    Do you look like butch wearing pantsuits or basketball shorts?

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  • Mastersofthecraft

    Are you scared of kisses. You have to be open minded to receive kisses from your girl. I got my frist kiss in a high school dance I drop her of at her parents I waked her to the door and I planted a kiss on her she retuned the kiss. I guess it comes natural when it comes it comes you know don't stress over it. Being kissed is awesome it fucking life changing I love being kissed it makes me feel powerful or alive.

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  • quentari

    How extroverted were your friends? I know from experience sometimes who you hang out with can hold you back. For half my schooling years all my friends were really extroverted and loud, and my female friends were outrageous flirts so I never really got noticed. In the second half I was at a new school and most of my friends were gay/lesbian as well as being very extroverted. Our group was just "that group of gay kids that hang out near the art room" and so I was just lumped under that category.

    Try going somewhere without your friends(your attention seeking friends anyway) or if you're really into a relationship try online dating

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    • Anime7

      Your group sounds like a pretty nice place to be. Maybe it's because I'm thinking of The Perks of Being a Wallflower, but your group sounds nice.

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