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I guess it's because I'm too smart, nice, and caring. I mean that's what they tell me. I'm slightly overweight and talk about philosophical topics for hours, but girls only care about looks.
Not all girls care about looks, but MOST girls do. Even the ones who are brainiacs care about looks. We all want someone we find attractive. And when you say "never talked" with a girl, do you mean sexually or just in a casual conversation? Because at 21, a sexual conversation can be understandable. Anywho, looks aren't the most important in most people's eyes. But yeah, try to talk to girls who are into the same things you are. And if you feel uneasy about your weight, do something about it. I began light exercising and layed off all sweets and sodas and I dropped a lot of lbs. It's not hard. You just have to grab your balls, shake your head, and say, "Don't be a wussy, mate. I'm a man. I can be who I want to be. The only thing stopping me is myself."
Good luck to you, man.
I agree with Terence. I think you've just found the wrong girls. Try taking a philosophy class and try chatting to the women you see there.
Also being nice, smart, and caring is not the reason why girls don't want to talk to you. It kind of sounded like that a bit from the way you wrote it, like as if you're saying that women only want to talk to dumb hot guys. That's not true and I think you know it. There are plenty, an inconceivable amount, of women that love to have discussions on philosophical topics. They're out there man, you just have to know where to look. Like the library or like I said a philosophy class.
As others have said no not all girls only care about looks in fact SO many just want a great guy that won't lie or cheat on them or hit them. They are incredibly lonely.
Have you ever done an online search to see how many lonely girls there are?
TRY IT.
I get sad for them. I guess most guys really are pigs for there to be so many single lonely girls.
Anyway, if you want to be more successful with girls then start talking to ones that have similar interests and lose some weight guy. Not only is it not healthy it is also much less attractive.
"I guess it's because I'm too smart, nice, and caring. I mean that's what they tell me."
Don't kid yourself.
I'm a chick magnet and I'm incredibly smart, nice and very caring. I often have to many girls interested in me than I care for. For example, I just moved to a new town and I've already got about 15 girls wanting to hook up with me. I can't even handle that many so I've narrowed it down to two.
If you like discussing things of higher intellect than your peers then get on an online forum of those topics. Join a plenty of fish dating site, it's free and you've got nothing to lose.
HTH.
is not normal, just speak to aa random stranger, gain confidence day by day and in a few weeks you will be speaking with girls, man you are losing the best experience in your life. women are silly, naughty and witty
Being fat isn't "about looks" it's more about health, thatis there are certain mentality that tend to go along with being fat.
(I'm a girl)
I don't agree, we don't talk about looks that much. Sometimes my friends and I go on philosophical topics too. I have noticed we tend to sit outside looking at the stairs wondering if there are aliens quite a lot hmm :|
Dude. If you were smart, you would talk to girls because you'd be smart enough to know that is how you BEFRIEND girls. If you were NICE, you would talk to girls because it is RUDE to NOT talk to girls...same goes for caring. You are shy and full of shit and clearly don't think girls are worth it. It's not because you're fat either. Most girls will look past that and some girls (like myself) LUUURRRVVVVEEE that. You're using it as a crutch.