Is it normal that i'm 20 and never had a boyfriend?

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I'm 20, nearly 21 and I've never had a boyfriend. I've kissed boys but haven't been felt up or had sex. All my friends discuss the guys they've got with and their one night stands aswell and their boyfriends and I sit quietly in the corner feeling really left out and I get really upset. They don't tease me but I get occassional comments made by them.

I've just finished my first year at uni and I was hoping to meet someone there but I haven't yet. I just got teased for being the innocent one which I hate! I don't want to sound vain but I'm not unattractive, I get asked by people why I'm not a model and I get along with everyone.

Maybe I have just set my standards too high and no men I've met are good enough, but I only get a small amount of interest from guys in clubs etc. and I've never been asked out or been on a date. I haven't spoken to anyone about how I feel as I find it hard to get my felings out, but deep down it's really upsetting me and I want to talk to someone about it. I'm quite a shy person and I dont think my parents are the right people to talk to. I'm good friends with my old teacher from school and would like to ask her advice but when I plan to talk to her I find it really hard to bring up, maybe because I'm embarrassed and upset.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated, Thank you :)

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    It's really difficult to answer questions like this without sitting in a room with you for a while and picking up what vibes you are giving off. It could be something as simple as people often misunderstanding what you are projecting.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    In all honesty I get the feeling this person really is a very beautiful girl and isnt bullshitting at all.

    There is no problem with having high standards, I do myself. And dont worry about getting teased by your friends, they probably secretly envy you for your looks and ability to refrain from the one night stands.

    I think your looks are intimidating to many men, most of which will probably immediately assume you either have a boyfriend, OR they have absolutely no shot whatsoever at you so they dont even bother attempting. Being proactive (without being overly aggressive) is a good idea. You may even surprise yourself when you see how easy it is after doing it.

    I find it funny how shyness coupled with being attractive is really a terrible combination. I speak from personal experience. Our society assumes good looking people, just on the basis of being good looking, must have highly developed social skills, when just the opposite is true more then it isnt.

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  • Mountiesfan
    7 years ago

    Enjoy the single life while it lasts and male the most of all the career, educational employees that you can do before being in a committed relationship.

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  • paigemaster1990
    11 years ago

    Why don't you try talking to guys instead of waiting for them to talk to you?

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  • whitetightys
    11 years ago

    I know exactly how you feel, I'm in the same boat. I'm just trying to be more outgoing and hoping that gets me somewhere.

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  • NerdyChickFTW
    11 years ago

    Maybe you just haven't found the right person? But you will.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Bwahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!!!!

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  • buttons
    11 years ago

    Its not all that great to date, but if you wanna meet someone try the internet. I've never tried, but people say its a lot more safe and normal people are are on there?

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    You might be putting off a vibe that is stopping guys from approaching you. Do you really have super high standards? What do your standards involve?

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  • ValleyofVung
    11 years ago

    Course it's normal. Although, it seems you're in this 'waiting for a guy to sweep me off my feet' mindset and I don't think that's normal for this day and age. Women need to be as proactive (if not more) as men nowadays to bag a man. What have YOU done to try and get a boyfriend?

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