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As the title says, I'm 20 and not only am I still a virgin and never kissed a girl, I've never even been on a date or had any friends that are girls in my life. I have very low confidence and that's a big reason why I ended up in this situation.
Being a virgin is far better than being on a first name basis with people at the STD clinic.
Okay 1. You are not weird or I think you're not.
I never had a girlfriend, I am 18 years old and i think i will never get a girlfriend for atleast 30 more years, i know pathetic. Why ? The same exact reason, you think you're not good enough, you think that the one you like deserves better than you but you know what, Fuck them! you need to think so more about yourself 'and your love interest'. Also if you are in the situation i am in now fo what i say. A friend of mine likes this girl and it seems he likes her alot but i also have a interest in her.... what do you do? just do your best to get her the best man/woman wins your friend won't be angry as long as it is faire. also if he doesn't do shit to impress her, just don't care about him :p
I my teen years I arguably didn't have any female friends, either. I write arguably, because there were girl(s) in my class in school, that I got along with, though I wouldn't necessarily call them friends. E.g., I would not see them outside of school, though I didn't see many of my male friends outside school.
Your question reminds me of a situation in high school where a teacher was talking about how, at a high school party, we (classmates) could set each other up on non-serious dates with girls from our former schools. I felt different then, 'cause I was thinking that I didn't have anyone from my former school whom I could ask to be a part of such a thing, 'cause I didn't have contact with any girl from my former school.
Try calling whores on 900 numbers. Talk dirty to them until you don't give a damn. Women on the street will sense your new attitude and they will pursue you to be their friend.
Fuck me pal, that's some heart wrenching shit!!
I'll tell you what I'll be your mate pal, go for a pint game of pool...
wow your 20 in never had a gf or any girls as friends you must be living in the stone age and know it is not normal for this being a virgin big deal i was one in till i was 21 years old now my daughter is 7 years old she is the only love of my life been single for 7 years and loving every minute of it all the time
Yeah I know it's not normal, but I don't see this changing. I'm in a situation where there's no opportunities to meet anyone new and this situation isn't going to end anytime soon.
like i said superstorm ive been single for 7 years and had no sex with anybody for that long i dont really mess it any since i work all the time and put all my effort all for my daughter dont worry either it is meant for you to find some girl to like you are not
I'm really sorry, dude. I'm a girl (19) and even I don't have any friends that are girls. They're just really confusing and sometimes even intimidating. I would seriously consider online dating. But real-world interaction is still important too. Good luck (:
It's not normal to be 20 and to have NEVER had a female friend.
However, there's a huge quantity of 20+ year olds who have never had a girlfriend, never had sex with a girl, never kissed a girl - you only have to use the search bar at the top of the page. Literally 50 odd posts about it (and counting). Every once or twice a month, a new post just like it gets submitted.
I know it's not normal to never have had a female friend but that's the unfortunate situation I ended up in. When I was in high school, I didn't know any girls and none of them knew me so it didn't happen and I didn't have the confidence to approach them. I'm new to this site, but it's good to hear that there are lots of others in this situation too on this site alone. I just get worried that no matter what I do to build up my confidence and improve myself won't matter because every girl that learns about my lack of experience will leave when she finds out.
There are many girls in your position too - shy, low self-esteem, no experience with the opposite sex.
Would you turn a girl down because of this? Would you turn one down because you would be their first ever kiss, their first ever boyfriend?
I'm going to guess the answer is no.
Plenty of girls wouldn't dismiss you on this basis if you've still got an appealing personality. So don't become preoccupied with your lack of experience, and don't allow it to put you off working on your self-confidence.
If you have opportunities to socialise with a mixed group (boys and girls) take them. If you have a hobby that gives you an opportunity to interact with girls casually in a comfortable environment, make the most of it. If you don't, think about starting one (film club, book club, creative writing classes, language classes... stuff that involves socialising).
Also, there's no reason not to use this wonderful tool, the internet, to make some female friends.
A great rule of thumb, though, is to remember that girls are just guys with different bits - if you treat them like some exotic creature or a trophy to be won, you'll struggle to make any friends at all, let alone long-lasting friendships (or more).
Yeah I feel like I'm stuck right now because I go to community college and there really isn't any socializing that goes on because everyone just goes to class and goes home. Maybe I should join a club at my school, I've thought about it but never did it because my classes got in the way. I've heard the expression "don't put the pussy on a pedestal" several times in movies and real life and I know not to treat them that way because you'll just fail if you do.
No one should care if they are still V. I meen, seriously who cares about that? Do you tell your mother that?
Your confidence won't have helped, but you can beat your low confidence. No one is better than you are :) it will happen one day, in the meantime work on your confidence :)
Have you considered what the worst thing that will happen to you if you ask a girl out, will be?
1) She'll pull a weapon out of her purse and shoot you dead, on the spot, for asking her out? Not likely.
2) she'll run away yelling, "rape, rape, rape..."? Again not likely.
3) She'll yell and scream "He's asking me out, he's ugly and he's asking me out" at the top of her lungs so all can hear? Perhaps, but really, not likely, again.
4) She'll say, "No thank you, but thanks for asking." More likely. A bit embarrassing, but honestly, survivable.
5) Or another possibility, "Yes. I'd like that."
Of course, you need a plan. Ask her out to someplace interesting; not just some stupid noisy bar. I like comedy clubs; they have entertainment so you don't have to go through that first date awkward conversation, they serve food and drink, so it doesn't appear you are trying to get her drunk, and all girls like to laugh. Also, there's the zoo, a boat ride, a picnic in a park; the list is endless.
So put on your best smile and ask some girl you fancy, to go out with you. What the fuck do you have to lose? Or do you want to be a virgin forever?