Is it normal that i'm 19 and never been kissed or even close to it?

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I'm going to be 19 in a month and a half and I've never been kissed. I've had this insecurity about not being kissed for a few years, but it wasn't until my 16 year old baby sister had her first kiss, that I began to question my loser status. I'm a shy person, especially when it comes to guys, my brain tells me there's nothing to stress about, but my feelings are telling me something different. I know that most teen girls find boyfriends at parties or clubs, and as much as I love to party with some friends, it's not really my scene. I don't really like to drink, because I don't like the taste and I have to work and go to college so I can't be out to late (I know I sound like a grandma haha). I wish there was some place where I could find someone who likes to have fun, but could also spend a friday night watching a movie or just hanging out. I'm just wondering if it's not normal that I've never had anything remotely close to a relationship or a kiss. I'm not very confident in my looks, I tend to rely on my brain and I know guys like confident, pretty girls. I'm just terrified I'll be alone for the rest of my life (Not to dramatic lol). Anyway, if anyone has any advice or can help me finally find out if I'm destined to be an abnormal freak or maybe there's hope for my normality yet?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    You sound pretty awesome to me! Don't think that you're a loser because you didn't obtain herpes at the age of 15. Great things are worth the wait..

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  • ldt329
    14 years ago | pl

    I am exactly the same - a few weeks ago I turned 19 and I have never been kissed. I regard myself as quite popular, but my shyness gets in the way alot especially with guys. My friends tend to get with someone everytime we go to a club and I just don't feel comfortable with that. It gets me down sometimes and makes me feel unattractive, but at the end of the day I know I am, its just my shyness and my inability to let people know I'm interested. I think at this point I have to just hold on to my values and wait for a great guy to come along who wants me for me. Most people - even my best friends - don't understand why I'm the way i am with things like that, but I'm just gonna wait for that one person who does ;) good luck :D xxxxx

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  • kwhatever
    14 years ago | pl

    Don't worry, I'm an 18 year old girl and have never been kissed either. And I must say I have above average looks. I'm skinny and have a nice body and been told i'm pretty many times. I guess it's because i'm shy, and very picky, also I loved somebody whom i couldn't have for years so I wasn't looking until this past year. Now I am looking, and kind of feel ashamed and afraid that my first kiss will suck and it will be so obvious that it was my first.

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  • BOYracer88
    14 years ago

    nothing wrong with that whatsoever, most people i know have more respect for girls like you than girls who jus giv it out freely you should be proud of yourself :)

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  • jordan442
    14 years ago

    you sound just like me i am 20yr old guy and never been kissed or in a relationship.

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  • Vvn
    14 years ago

    It's perfectly normal- Maybe just try to find people with the same interests as you in the meantime. The right guy will come eventually, theres plenty of time for men later in life!

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  • Proudfear
    14 years ago

    your not abnormal or a freak theres nothing wrong with waiting for someone or not doing it period,im similar

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  • Reaper101
    9 years ago

    I've never held a boy's hand!!! Just a hand hold that would be nice!! But whatever!!!!! Also yes it's normal

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    You could start by not dumping on yourself. You work, go to college and have values. Almost everyone is shy. But try to set some time aside for a social life - join some club you are interested in and do things that will put you in contact with the kind of guys you'd like to meet. When you do meet the right guy, take the initiative of striking up a conversation or inviting to go for a coffee ... you get my drift.

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  • scumfuck
    11 years ago

    am i the only one who finds this weird ? not trying to put you down but really ? i lost my virginity at 14

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  • aragnos
    11 years ago

    god is alive ........hes inside of yoooooooooooooooooooo

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  • Pinkypiepoe
    12 years ago

    Theres nothing wrong with it. You'll have your 1st kiss soon enough. Dont be like me who gave my first kiss to some guy i met at my high school's football game. I didnt even know his name and i just wanted to get it over with.

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  • erwcat
    12 years ago

    that means you are just not easy to bond with...
    would you prefer to be kissed and ''used'' at the age of 16 and then have the guy run off and have a child on your hands?
    sweety,men are SO overrated!

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  • infinity526
    14 years ago

    thats really lame... hey my 12 year old best friend was making out a few days ago with his gf on the bus... thats really lame...

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  • ghost12
    14 years ago

    i would kiss u if ur a white girl and not fat!!!

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    • LonelyStar10
      13 years ago | pl

      That's really fucking downright rude.
      What is wrong with people like YOU? There is absolutely nothing wrong with women that are big.
      And what is wrong with people who are white, or black? Nothing is wrong with people and their natural skin tones.
      That is just like saying you hate women who are darker skinned, That is pretty racist. I hope you made yourself proud.

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  • Luvz2fuk
    13 years ago

    Are you discustingly ugly??? probably ya sicko

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