Is it normal that i'm 21 and my life hasn't even started yet?

Hi,

I'm 21, and my life hasn't even started... I've never gone to school in my entire life (I was home schooled for a few years, but not anymore.), I've never had a job, no friends, nothing... All I do is sit around the house all day, every day, and I usually sleep until 5-6 PM. And when I'm not sleeping I'm either watching anime, playing PS3, or on the computer. I know I'm a loser, haha... I just see no point at all in getting up out of bed any earlier.

My mom is constantly telling me I need to go to school or get a job, preferably school. I want to go to school and finally get a life, but to be honest I don't believe in my self and I know I'm too dumb to go school or get a job. I am the dumbest person in the world, and you'd agree with me if you knew me. Plus I have some social anxiety and have no clue how to start a conversation, so I know I wouldn't be able to make any friends either.

Is this normal?

Thanks

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Based on 51 votes (13 yes)
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  • GreyWulfen

    You certainly need to spice up your life with something, because that sounds awful to me, no offense. Why don't you start off getting a hobby, maybe something creative? Learn to draw or write stories, publish your work on the internet, get in contact with people. That may also do good on your intellectual capacities.
    Also, get up early and be as productive as possible, achieve new, small goals every day. I know it's hard to break the routine, but you will get used to it.

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  • kelili

    I don't believe this whole story. For someone who was 'home schooled for a few years', you write well.

    And if all that is true my opinion of this is that you HAVE a life, a boring life but a life.

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    • iwasa90skid

      Homeschooled kids are often better writers than those that went through the public system.

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      • kelili

        Thought it was the contrary, this concept doesn't exist in my country. And I expected someone who was home schooled JUST A FEW YEARS to be less... Anyway

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        • RoseIsabella

          What country is that?

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          • kelili

            Republic of Mauritius

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    • I don't really care, but just because I 'write well for someone who was home schooled for a few years' doesn't make my story any less true. What, do you expect me to have bad spelling and the worst grammar in the world or something? You shouldn't decide whether or not something is true based on someones writing, that's just dumb.

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      • kelili

        It just doesn't make sense in my opinion but maybe I'm wrong and if it is so I am sorry.

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        • Whatever, haha... But thanks for apologizing.

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      • EccentricWeird

        You're clearly full of spit.

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  • linchpin

    gosh it must of been hard for your mum (and the hospital staff) delivering a 21 year old newborn

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  • Johnnytherat

    nerd + virgin = nergin

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  • RoseIsabella

    So go to therapy for the social anxiety then school and get a job. Baby steps my friend. And quit wasting time on anime and the PS3. Why were you home schooled instead of going to school in the first place?

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    • **Builds up for super load**

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Go outside discover the world.

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  • ThomasWayne

    And I taught my life sucks.

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  • "I just see no point at all in getting up out of bed any earlier."
    There's your biggest problem.
    Start by going outside and finding something to do.
    Or look up your interests on meetup (type it in google) and meet some people with similar interests.
    Or go to a nerd convention and make friends.

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  • thegypsysailor

    Since you obviously don't need to make a living, how about volunteering your time at a homeless or animal shelter?
    Even if you don't consider that a life for you, you would be helping someone else and perhaps you would gain a bit of self worth and some satisfaction from it.

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  • Isabella80s

    How about looking for part-time jobs so that it wouldn't be too much of a shock? You may not find one, of course, but it might be worth looking. I know it would be a challenge, but it would boost your confidence and earn you some money. Or there's volunteering? Just once a week. I get that it might be a scary prospect but I really think it would help you out and you'd be helping others too, which is very rewarding. Whereas, if you suddenly start a full-time job or school, it might be a bit of a shock in contrast to your current lifestyle.

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  • sweetwisteria

    It's perfectly normal to doubt yourself. And there's nothing wrong with spending your days alone. But you have to realize that one day you'll need to do something with your life in order to make a living. You don't have to go to school, but you're selling yourself short if you don't even try. If you graduated high school, you're smart enough to graduate college. And college isn't like high school. You don't have to worry about sitting alone in the cafeteria because you don't have friends. You can go to college and be a complete loner, and no one will even notice. If you WANT to make friends, join a club or activity. A few colleges have anime club, or video gaming clubs. You can usually find a listing of activities on the college's website, along with a contact email. Just remember that everyone in school is as worried as you are, for all kinds of different reasons.

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  • painisweakness

    I'd really like to meet OP and just give them the biggest hug ever. The world really needs smart, shy people like him and I'm glad he's amazing at writing and the like.
    Go outside and strike up some conversations, anon! :)

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  • That sounds a lot like me right now. Not attending school, not actively looking for a job, and barricading myself at home whilst I do nothing proactive in my life. No purpose or goal and existing without living.

    Yes, I am clinically depressed.

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  • Oh also, in case anyone's wondering... The reason my parents stopped homeschooling me is: I lost all motivation for school and my parents were tired of fighting with me to do school work, and so they just stopped trying... But I know my mom really wants me to go to school and get my GED. I want to too, it's just my anxiety and yeah... I really want to get at least a decent job though and then move out eventually, because I don't like living with my family.

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    • RoseIsabella

      Why did they start with the home schooling in the first place?

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      • It's because my oldest sister went to public school up until she was a young teen, and well long story short, she had an incident with the school principal and came home from school bawling her eyes out. After that incident my parents took her out of public school and home schooled her, along with the rest of their kids.

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        • RoseIsabella

          Sorry to hear that. May I inquire as to what the incident was?

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  • Perhaps I should explain myself a little better, since almost everyone here thinks I'm a troll. When I said I was home schooled for a few years (I really should have explained this better in my post at the user Kelili, I wish I had now. Also, I am just assuming that this is why you guys/girls think I'm trolling you, when I'm really not. But if this isn't the reason, please tell me and I'll try to explain myself more.). I actually meant I was home schooled all the way up until the age of 13-14. I know, I should have said that in my first post and I apologize, but I honestly didn't think it would matter at the time, but obviously I was wrong because most of you think I'm trolling.

    As for my writing... even though my parents home schooled me until I was 13-14, believe me if you had seen me write even 5 years ago, you would have thought I was a complete dumbass(Grammar was way worse than it is currently, I couldn't spell a lot of words, and I used to type the words ''But'' and ''Though'' after every single sentence, because I thought that's how you were supposed to write. Glad I don't do that anymore, haha. But I know my writing still isn't the best.) I think the reason my writing has improved a lot over the years is from using the computer a lot and just seeing how normal people write on sites like yahoo answers and other websites. I just learned from seeing other people write, you know...

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  • iwasa90skid

    I battled depression for my entire adolescence and into my twenties. I'm 24 and just starting to do something with my life (going to school, living away from home). I think there are a lot of people in situations like ours; we're just not considered 'normal' because we tend not to get out and show the world that hey, we're here!

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  • Avant-Garde

    This sounds somewhat similar to my life... Things have gotten so dysfunctional that I've begun seeing a therapist, which has been helping. Why don't you do the same?

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  • PenguinBoy

    You sound like you might be a troll.

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  • pacinoharmon

    How many years were you homeschooled? Just wondering, you seem smart. You should do something with your life, but take it one step at a time. Maybe start by going to school, then take up a hobby. You'll make friends if you get out and do stuff. Don't worry about getting a boyfriend/girlfriend (you didn't state your gender or orientation) or having sex right away. I'm a 21 year old virgin. The right time just hasn't come yet. Anyway good luck!

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  • Perhaps you're not stupid, you just weren't made for this world. If that's the case then it's something that we have in common.

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  • Phishy

    Yeah, you're a nergin.

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  • tripw7

    The problem is that you are not taking responsibility to be a human. What is going on that you don't get up in the morning. You need to start doing this. You're just LAZY. Get off your ass!
    Anyone that has the "word" capability that you have can actually be a contributor to society. Nothing wrong with "McDonalds" for instance.
    What do you think you will do when you get older and your "Mom" won't be there to take care of you. Get going, and you will be happier in life.

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  • Shroot

    Become robber.

    It takes little intellect its exciting, and if you get sent to jail, you can make new friends!

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  • You sound like the true definition of a hikikomori. **blows ghost load

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