Is it normal that i'm 19 and my girlfriend is 14 ?

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I would like to ask everyone not to judge
I'm 19 yo guy who never had a girlfriend not because of my self just because I didn't care about almost anything in my life and love never knocked my door till this year.
I met a girl who was so sweet ,polite and adorable saying that she is 16 years old we did go out few times before I feel that our friendship is growing to be more than that....one nighe we confessed our love and couldn't resist and we kissed and make out, the next day I was surprised by her calling me crying and that
she really love me and she lied to me and she is 14! I felt terrible ,ended the call and disappeared ,didn't call her.
Two days later she came to my house to apologized and said that she didn't want me to refuse her and that's why she lied.
I love her for real and I don't have any bad intention...I told her that we could be long distant friends but I can still feel the love in my heart and in her eyes...i know that 14 might not sound mature but she is but im afraid if I keep my relationship with her it will hurt me more in the future do you think she might do that ?
This relationship is awkward and I feel guilty even that im in a country that doesn't have a law that stops such relationship
I will never think about hurting her but I feel that I will hurt my self more if I stay and I feel a lot pain when I meet her.

What should I do ?

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Based on 81 votes (50 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    I don't think it is a good idea. You still have a ton of maturing to do as does she. I am not the same person now 27 that I was at 14 and I really am not even the same person I was at 21. The fact that she lied about her age shows immaturity right there. Regardless if you can get in trouble due to the age at the end of the day it's just really not a good idea. I can't say that enough.

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    • shuggy-chan
      8 years ago

      ^1000%

      I don't think you even know what "love" really is untill maybe your mid 20s to 30s. Because you learn it through your life experiences. The good ones and especially the bad ones. And no matter how much you think you know, there's still 20 things you don't.

      So you should let this one go man, maybe in for five years you guys still feel the same, or want to give it another go, then go for it.

      But at 19 you don't even fucking know what love versus infatuation is. Let alone a 14-year-old

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  • 53739
    8 years ago

    The only reason she lied about her age is so that you would give her a chance. Can't you see that she loves you? She is young but she will remember you forever because you are probably her first. If you want to do the right thing, stay by her side and show her what it means to feel loved.

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  • RainbowFlash
    8 years ago

    You were fine until you found out her age. That says that what you had, worked.. kinda.

    I think you honestly should pursue this relationship, but keep it non sexual. If it works out, you might end up marrying one day. If it doesn't work out, you won't be left wondering.

    You have posted here, on IIN about this. You know what kind of response you will get, yet you are still stewing over this. Go speak to her, tell her how you feel and what you want. Ask her what she wants and stuff.. guys of her age are immature, you both may well be at the same maturity level.

    If you just vanish or break it off with her without discussing this with her, you're an asshole. She is at a very sensitive point in her life and you NEED to talk to her about this. Don't be a jerk to her.

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  • apy
    8 years ago

    now i voted yes it is normal because i feel love has no age limit in terms of teenage years and personality, However you must under no curcumstances have sex with her even kissing her is doggey as fuck. i would say if you love her and you are both good people wait. if you must split up with the promise to meet again on her 16 birthday and depending on the law hold out for sex till her 18th remember it may not be her that gets you in to trouble but her parents. you must think if you love her and she loves you, you will both want a good life together with jobs and a house and none of that is easy let alone if you have a sex offence record

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  • TerenceTheTiger
    8 years ago

    if it's legal in your area/country go for it, sounds great.

    5 years is nothing when she's 20 and you're 25

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  • SkullsNRoses
    8 years ago

    Walk away, this child is way too young for you.

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  • Treklover11376
    8 years ago

    Its statutory rape if you have sex. Doesn't matter if you are both consenting or not. Wanna go to jail?

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    • umph
      8 years ago

      It depends on the country / state. There are places where it is legal to have sex from age 14 or even 13.
      Just look at Age of Consent on Wikipedia.

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      • Couman
        8 years ago

        That's true, although 14 is definitely on the young side. Though depending on their exact ages it could fall within the 5-year "Romeo and Juliet" clause some places have.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Where are her parents? How do they even let you get close enough to her to talk to her?
    You may not be a very mature adult but you are legally an adult. She is a CHILD! She doesn't know what love is, nor does she understand the responsibilities thereof. She's like a little kid in the shopping cart sticking out her hand and going, "Gimme, gimme." at everything she wants.
    Get out and leave her alone immediately for both your sakes. If things go just a little bit sideways you are going to go to jail for a good number of years and be on that dreaded sex offenders list for the rest of your life.
    You sure won't have any chance at finding a real girl friend if you end up on that list as a pedophile.

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    • Steve2WantsTheManagement2Reply
      8 years ago

      The hypocrisy is immense. I remember you telling me in one of our little arguments that I was a prude for believing children shouldn't date.

      As you would say, ROTFLMAO!!!

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        So dating to you is engaging in sex and only that? Talk about a hypocrite!

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