Is it normal that i'm 18 and i've never had a crush?

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I really like the idea of romance, and I want a relationship, I want to fall in love, etc, etc. But I've never had a crush. I've never gotten the "warm fuzzies" over anyone, guy or girl. I know when people are hot, and I have friends, but I've never been romantically interested in anyone specific.

I don't think my standards are insanely high or anything, there are people I would date. Like I said, I have good friends, and I can recognize when people are hot. It's just that other people have described a crush as something more than that, like a spark or a warm feeling or getting excited whenever the other person's around, and I've never had that towards anyone. I want romance, but I've never wanted it with someone specific.

Maybe I just haven't met "the one" yet, but even if I haven't met my soulmate, I feel like I should have had a crush by now. I mean, even little kids get crushes. Is it normal to have never felt that?

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  • bosch
    3 years ago

    This is ABSOLUTELY normal. Not everyone gets crushes or romantic feelings. You may just be a late bloomer (everyone comes into their sexuality/romantic orientation differently, after all) but you might also be aromantic. I'd suggest doing some exploration into the aromantic community, to see if any of the labels or stories that you find there resonate with you at all. But like I said, either way it is totally, absolutely normal to not have crushes. Not everyone does, I promise.

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  • Lonely2
    8 years ago

    Most people get their first crush during early puberty when they get the first onslaught of hormones....do you ever get horny?

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  • onebigbang
    8 years ago

    I got a crush straight away in high school then kissed her in year 8

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  • Ebolohammeh
    8 years ago

    Focus your time on something productive instead of that meaningless waste of time and energy. Love is nothing but an illusion, and like all illusions, it fades over time until death banishes it forever.

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    • TheDentist
      8 years ago

      Goddamn, you're morbid. I can understand why no one would ever love you.

      Also, you sound like Cyrus from Pokemon Gen 4.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    What's your hurry? You are barely out of diapers, in the scheme of things. Be patient.

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  • KingTermite
    8 years ago

    Probably not normal, you may be a sociopath. Do you find it easy to lie to people? Often surprised when others find your behaviour offensive?

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    • bosch
      3 years ago

      Bro that's uh... kind of a terrible thing to say. Plenty of people just don't feel romance very often, that doesn't make them sociopaths. And some people are aromantic?? They're not sociopaths either.

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