Is it normal that i'm 17 and i've never been kissed?

I'm, like I said, 17, and a freshman in college. I know that I am a good looking girl (not conceited, just honest) at a healthy weight with good hygiene, style, confidence, etc. I am told often that I am beautiful/hot/etc. I definitely don't let this get to my head, as it gets hard for me to believe sometimes because - I have never been in a relationship, never been held, never been kissed.

I suppose my biggest problem is I was raised in a way where I wasn't allowed to be in relationships with people outside of my specific church and it was fully expected of me to have my first kiss on my wedding day. Deviating from my church as I grow up, though, it feels very strange not having even held hands with a boy. I feel like a huge toddler over half the time, and the mere knowledge that I've never been kissed is like a weight that I carry around with me. If I ever tell anyone, they're genuinely shocked.

One reason might be that I moved around so much throughout my childhood, which was emotionally distressing and made it hard to establish connections with people?

I don't want to think that I'm a prude or overly picky. I mean, I don't drink or party, but I do want my first kiss to actually mean something.

At this point in time, though, I literally can't even imagine something happening for me in the romance or sex department. And every day, I feel like a circus freak or something because of it.

Is it normal to be 17 and never been kissed? I turn 18 very soon..

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Based on 71 votes (62 yes)
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Comments ( 9 )
  • PhillipLoco

    Wait until you are 18 then go get laid . And read some Anton Lavey books. xristianity & monogamy are for suckers LOL.

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  • 800imawesome

    Heck, I know people who were first kissed in their thirties. This is perfectly normal.

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  • isaactaruma23

    im 16 and never been kissed too. just try to wait the right person, babe! its a FIRST KISS!

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  • PBandG101

    Do you have sexual cravings? Do you want to be kissed or do you just think it's weird that you haven't been yet?

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    • ladeedah

      @ PBandG101 - The first thing you said.

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  • packersman

    Take it from a college student, it's completely and acceptable that you haven't been kissed yet. The fact you are actually making it into something is basically putting it on the pedestal. Once it does happen, you will be ready. And in college, I guarantee you will get a lot of chances ;)

    I was the same on the other side of the coin, I hadn't kissed and I was a dude. However, I found the right person that I felt comfortable around to do it with. I highly suggest you don't just kiss somebody cos they are anybody. Find someone you like, get into an intimate setting and go for it (I puckered up and made a kissing noise, but let her go in for the kiss). Ended up working great, she thought it was cute and solidified our relationship.

    Just take it slow and relax. Your time will come.

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  • MrsBailey9

    Don't rush it! When you have your first kiss it should be with someone you like and care about. Waiting until you get married is sweet, but is it realistic? Wanting to wait until you get married is highly commendable! I encourage you to stick to your plan to wait to have sex until then, but kissing and holding hands... That's up to you. Don't be in a hurry to grow up! Enjoy your youth while you can! Totally normal hon!

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  • grandmalicker

    Don't worry about it hun :) you'll get your first kiss soon

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    It's not normal. Christianity is harmful for your well-being.

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