Is it normal that i'm 29 and have never had a girlfriend?

Ok, I know it's not normal--not only have I never had a girlfriend, I've never as much as kissed a girl. It is a vicious cycle at this point--I am too embarrassed to do anything about it, because I'm worried that the girl will find out and... I don't know what, but something bad. That keeps me from actually pursuing a girl, because I am too full of anxiety. People who know tell me that I have a lot to offer, but it's hard for me to trust someone with my secrets. Do you think it's possible to get out of this mess?

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  • wreckd

    Many women would think that is very sweet! Don't worry so much. :)

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  • shittydaughter

    Im a 27 yr old girl and I am in the same boat as you. I believe honesty to be the best policy and when you meet the right girl she won't think anything of your inexperience, she'll most likely be turned on by it! Don't give up on yourself, she's out there just waiting for you :)

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  • Ahoy

    Ah, a lot of people are in the same situation.. if you are afraid of telling girls that you have never had a girlfriend before.. then lie. I usually don't give the advice of lying, but this time is an exception. Lie and say you have had a girlfriend before. Multiple girlfriends, at that. It will at least get you further than where you are right now. And if you aren't comfortable lying, then tell the truth. If the girl has a problem with it, then she obviously isn't worth your time anyways.
    Yes, this is normal. It happens to a lot of people.
    Best wishes <3

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  • Dreamboat

    Sh*t Im 20 and haven't been in a relationship for longer than a day. Iv'e kissed a girl before and almost had sex but thats about it.Still a virgin..Hope I dont end up being 29 and still a virgin

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  • very_curious

    never lie! Tell her the truth if she thinks you're wierd or something then she is not the right person for you! Don't feel sad the right girl is out there and one day you will find her or she will find you ^_^
    I'm 21 and I've never really had a boyfriend. I'm a virgin and not afraid to say. I'm waiting for the right person too ^_^
    good luck! <3

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  • SoularWind

    Don't worry. Your normal to me anyway. Relationships are over rated. I'm asexual and though I don't know if you are or not, it's perhaps the best way to be as far as personal freedoms go. You don't have to worry about calling anyone or putting up with bitchy moments. But if you want one then just get out more.

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  • mumbum

    I agree to just lie but maybe just say that you have only had one girlfriend. .. Not lots. Later you can come clean with her.. I kind girl will think it is cute that you lied to make sure you got her!! Kissing doesn't have to be more than closed mouth kisses , and you can follow her lead here too. Have a drink at a bar a relax.. Girls are kind and forgiving and are not critical. We are nervous too!! :)

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  • Hard_Candy

    I also don't think it's neccessary to divulge such information to girls you meet. It sounds weird and they will probably wonder what's wrong with you. You should just keep that information to yourself and try to get to know people naturally. Have you tried dating websites? If you're uncomfortable with apporaching a woman at a bar for instance, online should be a great way to get to know women without pressure.

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  • tego

    try watching sex film always to see how to kiss, dont panic spread her legs n lick her vagina deeply like icecream is in there, then insite ur dick deep inside her vagina n bang her hard in n out. she will always run to u for more.

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