Is it normal that i'm 22, pretty and never had a boyfriend?

So the title says it. I'm 22, soon 23, imo I have average looks but I have been called beautiful and much better looking then average women. But if that's the case, why have I never had a boyfriend? I've hardly even been on dates. I know some guys have shown me interest, but I have turned them down because I knew I would never want a relationship with them. What's the point of going on a date and letting the other person assume you're interested when you're not? That's why I turn down men I'm not interested in. But if I actually am as attractive as people say I am, why am I alone? I'm not a bitch I swear. I have liked many guys, but I guess the guys I like never like me back? That makes me feel miserable. So I am destined to be with guys I don't like, because nobody else wants me? I want a relationship where the feeling is mutual. I'm not gonna be with someone just to have someone :(
It's easy for my friends to say "you don't need a man to be happy!" when they have had so many boyfriends. As if I don't know it, I've been alone my whole life. Try telling that to yourselves.
I feel like I'm wasting my youth. I want to be happy now, not when I'm 50.
What is wrong with me? :(

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Comments ( 21 )
  • youareaghost

    People are giving you advice that's farce. Be better looking? They will swarm around you? Mr. Right will magically appear at your door step? Haha no.

    What are you doing for yourself? Do you love yourself the way you want someone to love you? Do you love other people? Are you friendly, nurturing, compassionate, humorous (the list is endless)? What do you offer?

    Where are you going to meet people? How many guys do you MEET and talk to in a day, or week? Are you showing them your good qualities? Do you make them feel like big strong men? Are you feminine?

    Do you know your own value? Men don't just start sprinting towards women they think are pretty. That's a lie. They lied to you. You have to invite them. Smile at them. Play/tease them. Touch them. Learn about them. Tell them what you like and how to please you. You should do this with as many people (men and women) as possible.

    I can go on and on and on. One thing you should seriously integrate into your belief system is that men love women. They are naturally predisposed to loving you. Everything a man does is to make life easier, better, and more convenient for women, children, and their community. They are powerful and you need to realize that they need to be loved too. So love first.

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    • Mrstr8up

      100 % agree with you !! Plus more.

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  • I'm the exact same way. Let's meet and drown our sorrows with sweets and comedy movies.

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    • daydreamer394

      Dasand Rudestorm

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    • CoLLie94

      Ha me too

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  • Mrstr8up

    I felt kind of bad for u when I first read the title but not after. A lot of red flages and possibles but I'll keep it short as possible but I have a lot of questions. Im not being mean but maybe your aiming too high or too much into yourself or worse maybe you are pretty .... with a horrible personally. Everything happens for a reason.

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  • Most people are with someone they don't like.

    Its perfectly normal that you haven't found someone with mutual thoughts.

    Guys like you who you don't like back the same way the ones you like don't like you back.

    People who have lots of different relationships are usually settling for someone they don't have much in common with.

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  • linchpin

    First off, you're still so young. And there's nothing wrong with feeling around the interest shown towards you for something lasting. The point of going on a date is kind of like an informal interview, an experiment of chemistry. There's nothing wrong with eliminating the people who you don't feel compatible with, in fact you're showing maturity in being able to discern what you want.

    You are alone because you haven't found that one person that you feel compelled towards seeing again and spending more time with. We all fall for people that don't reciprocate our interest, the challenge and reward is that moment when the feeling is mutual. You are right not to just be with someone for the sake of it, that's shallow and best to avoid, as it will only end in heartbreak for the person you are with.

    Personal freedom is very under-rated I think. Make the most of it while you are young with reasonably less responsibilities. I know of alot of people out there approaching middle age who feel tied down and burdened by commitment. Use the time to travel and get to know yourself better. You are not wasting your youth while you are in an effort of soul searching, you will become a much fuller individual than those who have been in a long term relationship since an adolescent age.

    There is nothing wrong with you. You are normal.

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    • hitori

      Thank you so much!

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      • linchpin

        my pleasure.
        all the best :)

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    You're either not as pretty as you believe or you are but also send an intimidating vibe.

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  • P.J.Fry

    Pretty girls are hard to talk to!

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  • CoLLie94

    I'm 19 and never had a boyfriend so I hope it's normal. But really I believe that some people aren't ment to date, if that makes sense. I want to find a guy that will love me for the good, bad, and ugly; at our age guys are still immature and only want a superficial relationship that may only go so deep even if they think they like us for the right reasons. I talk to guys all the time and sometimes hang out with them alone but I've never felt a "spark" with any of them. If your looking for love it won't come around until you least. expect it. So girls like us have to keep our chins up and be true to ourselves. Love will happen

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  • Imsupernormal

    Maybe your just ugly

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  • aprilmercedes

    NO! I didn't have a real boyfriend until I turned 22...and then I married him at 23 and left him a month later. Why rush? I'm now 43 and married with baby...TAKE YOUR TIME!

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  • farkelu

    I don't think there's anything "wrong" with you; however, most pretty girls your age have had at least one boyfriend

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  • yesnomaybeso

    So many people are with people they don't actually love because they are afraid to be alone. I think you don't have to worry, you will find MR. RIGHT sometime :*

    That's how I found mine. I could have never imagined it and I was thinking "I am not meeting new guys how am i gonna meet the right one?" But, oh, the The best things in Life are unexpected ;)

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  • randypete

    There is nothing wrong with you do you like girls ?

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  • Darkoil

    Better hurry up, 30 is just round the corner and then nobody will want you.

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    • hitori

      Are you speaking from experience? :)

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      • Darkoil

        No I was just making a joke.

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