Is it normal that i love my teacher like a mother?

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okay, so first things first. my (tap) teacher and I don't really talk a lot. but when we do, we really connect like I would if I were talking to my friends. also, she used to be my teacher.. I just assist her now.

I really love her like a mother/friend. and I wanna talk to her all the time but I'm too nervous and I wouldn't know what to talk about, especially now that dance is over for the summer. I hug her almost every chance I get, I don't wanna feel annoying but I don't think she's as loved as much as all the other teachers. and when she's around I get really nervous. is it normal to feel this way?

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  • (.)(.)boobies
    9 years ago

    What you're experiencing is normal. There's a name for it, actually; transference. This is when you have a need that went unmet when you were in the early years of forming a bond with your mother. Something happened where you didn't feel protected or nurtured at some point, so you're unconsciously seeking it in mother figures, trying to re-enact that maternal connectedness you needed.

    You might want to prepare yourself for similar scenarios cropping up again and again with different authority figures; people in the role of taking care of you in some form or another. Once you grieve the loss of your teacher's presence in your life, you'll begin to unconsciously seek another rescuer. It helps if you can be aware of when the transference is happening, so you can observe it objectively rather than feel completely ruled and consumed by it. That way you can realize you're just trying to fill a void and be gentle with yourself.

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    • hauntedbysandwiches
      9 years ago

      This ^

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