Is it normal that i love my husband but still cheat?

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First & foremost, I know I'm gonna get bashed for this. Also, I am NOT looking for justification. I just want to share my story in hopes that I might find someone with a similar situation & maybe even advice.

I love my husband. He's my high school sweetheart, my best friend. He's patient, kind, loving , & an amazing father, BUT I still feel the need to cheat. I do not have daddy issues at all. My relationship is great for the most part. (Occasional ups & downs)
Lately I just don't know what's gotten into me. For the last 6 months or so, I've been texting other guys. My sex drive is much higher & I want to fulfill my needs. My husband is good in bed. Not the best, but we know what we like. He is any woman's dream man but I am so selfish. My friends always tell me they wish they had a relationship like ours.
I got a new position at work and my trainer and I have so much sexual tension. Even though we are both married we always flirt. And he's even been upfront about wanting to have sex with me and so have I. We have not had sex, but we did mess around in his car. We made out , touched, but it was during our lunch break so we had to go. Plus I was a little scared. And the thing is, I don't feel guilty about it at all. I wanna have sex with him so much and I know if the opportunity presents itself again, we will.
I want to add that this is just lust. Nothing more & we are both on the same page about that . I'm not trying to fill an emotional void here, just the thought of having sex with someone else turns me on so much.
I feel guilty for not feeling guilty because i am aware of the damage I am doing. But i just wanna keep on cheating. Ugh. I just don't get why I love this thrill. Or what I can do to snap out of it. But like I said, it's JUST physical. But i do wish to stop feeling this way because my husband does not deserve this.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago | pl

    I guess you love your husband so much you want to break his heart and shatter his life.
    Now that is true love.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      Let's not forget the kids, she loves her husband and kids so much that she'll do something that will most likely cause a split in the relationship which will effect the kids, too...

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  • Jeaneathean
    9 years ago

    No, you don't 'love' your husband.

    Do him a favour and leave him.

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    • anonymousss_
      8 years ago

      Shut up

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  • (s)aint
    9 years ago

    It's normal to have the DESIRE to hook up with others, we are just humans. It's natural to be attracted to other people.
    It's however NOT normal to act on these feelings!

    What would be more normal would be to bring up the subject of swinging and/or bringing more life into your own sexlife with your HUSBAND.

    You may claim that you love your husband, but you certainly don't care about the family and his feelings at ALL.

    So is it normal to cheat? Sadly it seems to be in human nature judging by all posts and behaviour I have seen from other people -_-

    I hope he finds out and leaves with the kids.

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    • anonymousss_
      9 years ago

      If you can't relate,then your opinion is not valid.

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      • (s)aint
        9 years ago

        So if I cannot relate to people murdering their children I can´t have an opinion about it? Fuck you.

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        • anonymousss_
          9 years ago

          Well let me rephrase it, your opinion is not valid to ME because you're a narrow minded individual. NEXT.

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          • (s)aint
            9 years ago

            Narrow minded individual because I despise cheating with every inch of my body and that I think you deserve to die old, alone and unwanted by everyone because your rotten core has finally made your body too repulsive for anyone to touch?
            Fucking cunt.

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            • anonymousss_
              8 years ago

              Wow. Lol. Low life idiot. I love how your user name is saint though. We all sin differently my dear. I'm sure you have skeletons in that closet of yours. Quit acting like you're perfect & fuck off. Kthanks! Fucking imbecil.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    You know, I've noticd that so many women do this and it's pissing me off. It's one of the reasons I seriously doubt I will commit to a woman, because it seems that if you are a decent man, one your partner can describe as great, the woman is STILL going to cheat on you, compared to the abusive dickweed who seems to never haave their partner cheat on them.

    Ugh. People like you piss me off. You have a good man and fucking kids and you will toy around with the family like this? You're a fucking cunt and I would piss on you if you were on fire, not so the fire went out but so that your burnt corpse smelled of the piss you are aswell.

    You selfish, low-life cunt.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Shut the fuck up. Men do this too you ignorant little fuck.

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      • [Old Memory]
        8 years ago

        You're about ten months late.

        Regardless, my point stands. Did I say men aren't doing this? No. They're just as much cunts as you are.

        Yes, women AND men do this. That just means you're equally cunty.

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  • zlofton
    9 years ago

    Women like you are the reason i wont get married! Imagine yourself in your husband shoes. you love your wife, you thinks she loves you too. and you have no idea shes a filthy skank that cheats on you. I hope he finds out. i know if my wife ever cheated, I would never have sex with that whore again! You even have kids? if your husband finds out he will most likely divorce your ass! and anyone in their right mind would. divorce is hard on kids. but you dont give a shit you just want your trainer to fill you with his cum. what a filthy, good for nothing piece of trash you are! you should really buy a gun, and kil yourself. Have fun taking other mens dicks up your filthy mouth

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    • anonymousss_
      9 years ago

      Like there isn't men who do the same shit? I'm too lazy to write an essay but fuck you with your sexest remarks.

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  • Ellenna
    9 years ago

    To keep doing something which you know can cause damage is usually due to addiction, in this case sex addiction.

    If you want to keep your marriage and not hurt this man who loves you, get some help

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  • mystery7
    9 years ago

    This is what I got out of reading your post:

    You love your husband, he is patient, kind and loving, he's an mazing father and he's your best friend!
    You are selfish
    You cheated on your husband with your trainer
    You don’t feel guilty about cheating on your husband AT ALL
    You just wanna keep on cheating.

    Errr.... Ok. How's the affair going? Divorced yet?

    Have a nice life.

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  • TheShyGirlFromWork
    9 years ago

    If you cheat, then be safe and have fun - just don't cheat with your heart.

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    • anonymousss_
      9 years ago

      Omg. I love you.

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  • missy911
    9 years ago

    To begin with, this person who has been placed in a trust position, training other people is behaving completely irresponsibly. He is violating company policy and placing the company that he works for at risk. The two of you can be fired for your behavior.

    While I don't approve of your actions, people do cheat on there partners. But this guy is in a superior position to you in the work place, regardless of how incremental and you are in the now compromised position of needing his good assessment to satisfy the requirements of competence.

    Also, more people may have noticed your tete-a-tete behavior than you realize and your own admitted sex fueled compulsion can make you look like the temptress. One of the most powerful aspects of any new relationship is the ability of the two involved to mentally create a private space where none exists. "I only have eyes for you..."

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  • WhiteStallion
    9 years ago

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    What would you rather have: a few moments of pleasure or a lifetime of regret? ItDuz is harsh but you have the nerve to say you don't feel guilty?! If you were related to me I'd have much more to say and probably do to you.
    You talk as if touching this guy isn't so bad because you haven't had sex...its cheating nonetheless.
    You know the bigger picture here. Be loyal and kick this guy to the curb so you can look your children in the face without having to keep the secret that their mother's a whore and what kind of example is that for them anyway.
    When you go to work do just that, what is your mentality- a kid in a candy shop?Come on woman

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  • pastor_of_muppets
    9 years ago

    Try and figure out what has activated this sudden urge to do these things.
    It might be because your relationship is getting stale or boring or too comfortable.
    Whatever it is, figure it out and put on your big girl pants and fix it by getting yourself either away from the current temptation or have the decency to be honest with your husband so that he can dump your ass and take the kid(s) with him if you still wanna behave like a stupid teenage bimbo :)

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