Is it normal that i love my friend sometimes more than my husband?

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Please tell me how to get over this crush I have..almost since I met my husband..one of his best friends (who is also married to someone else)and I have been crushing on each other (really attracted to each other)..sooo embarassing, and I have recently been avoiding the friend off and on..because it feels like it's getting worse. We want to be with each other but will purposely do things like wear dirty clothes or gain weight so we aren't as attracted to each other. We are committed to our families..but I just want to be with him so much, it makes me feel like crying. Tell me how to make it stop..we want to at least be friends I guess..would like to be friends with each other's families.. Maybe I should just LET myself cry over him every once in a while..and not tell anyone..just get it out.

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  • Nympho2013
    11 years ago

    Its a forbidden fruit you have yet to try. Of course the temptation is there. It'll especially be there whenever you get mad at your husband or when you feel like you're under appreciated by him; you start wondering "what if I was with the other guy? would it have been better?" Honestly, I think you need to stop torturing yourself and cut the other guy off completely. If you don't want to cut him off then fine, live in regret or severe curiosity. In all honesty, the only way to find out if its "real" or just the temptation is to indulge in even the most innocent way, and if nothing comes from it, then you need to move on with your life.

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  • standbyme555
    11 years ago

    The grass isn't green on the other side, the grass is green where you water it.

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    • 53739
      8 years ago

      That doesn't make sense.

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago

    If you want something then I say take it. Come on is a little bit of sex really going to hurt anyone, I mean if you don't fancy your husband anymore then he only has himself to blame. I've had sex with a married women before and she loved it and her husband never found out. At the end of the day cheating or no cheating, you're still lying to yourself and your husband if you strongly want somebody else.

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    • forever_anon
      11 years ago

      "you're still lying to yourself and your husband if you strongly want somebody else."

      This. While I don't agree that an extramarital affair is the answer, maybe you (meaning the OP) should re-evaluate your marriage if you're that in love with someone else.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    11 years ago

    Have you tried masturbating to thoughts of him? Once you have imaginary sex with him, perhaps the thrill will wean down and you won't be as interested.This could also make you become more avoidant of him and eventually able to see him as just a friend you once masturbated to. Just masturbate as many times as it takes to get him out of your head.

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  • pieman_69
    11 years ago

    no u f***ing hoe

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