Is it normal that i lost my v-card and feel nothing?

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I am 22 years old. All my life I have always played by the rules. I've done everything that was asked of me, behaved the way good Christian girls were expected to, and rarely made any mistakes. I think I must have snapped recently because now I'm a good girl gone bad. I've been seeing this guy for almost 3 months now and I'm not in love with him, though he is in love with me. I recently lost my virginity to him in the tackiest way. We were drunk and I told him I wanted to. He didn't know I was a virgin. My virginity was my most prized possession and I always thought I'd lose it on my wedding night...or at least to someone I was sure I was in love with. After I lost it, I expected to be a total mess, crying and broken, with a conscience screaming how low and slutty I was....but nothing. I feel nothing. I mean, I feel kinda stupid for losing it, but thats about it. Its like 'oh well'. And now I'm like a sex feind. Is that normal? =/

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  • Enizzle
    13 years ago | pl

    It's simple, really. You have a vagina. It's meant to be penetrated. Toss the religion and the politics and the bullshit aside, and at the end of the day, it's all alot simpler.

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  • BOYracer88
    13 years ago | pl

    religion is bullshit, go and enjoy life, its the only one you get

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  • Grazr
    13 years ago

    Don't go too crazy because you might get an infection or virus. Have fun but just stay safe!

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  • jeff2smart
    13 years ago

    I thought by the title you were referring to a v-days card from childhood. Silly me lol

    Well I was taken advantage of when I lost mine. I don't care either way.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    It's just sex that's why. It doesn't mean anything.

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  • ohioboy73
    13 years ago

    Why do most men have a "catholic school girl" fantasy?

    Girls like you :p

    Those beautiful "deprived" christian girls turned into total sex addicts.

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  • vaalkaar
    13 years ago

    If you were sore, that's just because he wasn't gentle enough. If it's done right, even your first time can feel good.

    But anyway, that is normal, yes. I grew up in a strict Baptist environment, and now I do everything I was taught to not do and feel no guilt about it. I smoke, drink, have quite a lot of sex with different people, and I'm an existential atheist. In my mind it just goes to show that religion is BS.

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    • sparrowfeed
      13 years ago

      my first time was great, and he was gentle. (lost it about a week ago.. no guilt whatsoever)

      ya, i do a lot of things i'm not supposed to. drinking. smoking. i used to smoke pot. and now--premarital sex :D that's not to say i'm promiscuous, but still. i am somewhat religious in that i believe in a higher power, but i don't believe all of the moral restrictions and BS religions put on people.

      lol @ lovelyfeathers: that seems a bit much--an entire week of bleeding. i barely bled at all. my friends have also had relatively good first times..

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  • sparrowfeed
    13 years ago

    Lol.. that's awesome! congratulations.
    i'm a christian girl who's been (more or less) doing what she was told.. although i'm not religious at all and have steered away from it profoundly during my teenage years. nevertheless, i've been dating this guy for a little over a month, am also 22, and am seriously thinking of losing it.

    sex is just feeling good. you're 100% right in not feeling bad! and it was your BF, anyway! did it feel good, at least? ;)

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    • lovelyfeathers818
      13 years ago

      I'm not advising that you should do it or not, but I still dont regret my decision. To answer your question, it did not feel good the first few times. I was sore and bleeding for like a week! But after the 3rd or 4th time, it started to hurt less and less and now its amazing. I love sex. lol

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  • soccer2
    13 years ago

    Yea I think this is normal. To some its just not that big of a deal. And as long as you don't regret it then it's fine

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  • Sumwun
    13 years ago

    Most people lose their virginity around 19 these days. It's absolutely normal.

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  • lozthomps
    13 years ago

    it dousent mater so wat its only sex

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  • sparrowfeed
    13 years ago

    what baby video? video of him as a baby?

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  • White__October
    10 years ago

    It's completely normal, I guess you imagined too much of it before and now that it happened it turned out to be nothing special.

    And that's what sex is, nothing special. It's fun of course, but there's absolutely no reason to wait for your wedding night like you intended to. In that way, christianity can be so wrong! They make up all those unnessecary rules.

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  • Legion
    12 years ago

    Its normal to feel nothing, many dont. I honestly dont see it as a very big deal

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  • milabu
    12 years ago

    At least he liked you.

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  • theAnomilyGuy
    13 years ago

    You better call the credit card company to cancel it or you might find a lot of charges on your bill that you didn't make.

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  • heygetaloadofthisguy
    13 years ago

    One big problem with religion is all the guilt and hang ups, the desire to have sex is natural, the pleasure of sex is natural. So long as you are enjoying yourself and not putting yourself (or others) at risk, there is no logical reason to think that ANYTHING is wrong with your recent sexual activity.
    Try not to take life too seriously, you'll never make it out alive.
    Have a great time, I am.

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  • PBJ
    13 years ago

    Did you get this Valentine's Day card from that special someone in fifth grade?

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    • lovelyfeathers818
      13 years ago

      lol umm V-card = virginity

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