Is it normal that i like my ex-boyfriend's friend?

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I was seeing my ex-boyfriend for a month and a half, no big deal to most people, but it's the longest relationship I have ever been in. He doted on me when others were around, but when it was just us two, he was condesending and irritating, nothing was working the way we expected. We mutually decided to end it, and we are both happier because of it, and we have been separate for 2 weeks now.

However, I have started talking to his friend a lot more lately, a friend who had a crush on me whilst me and my ex were dating. I'm starting to get feelings for him, and they're hitting me hard and fast. We're both going to a friend's BBQ next week, separately, but my ex will be there too.

What should I do? Is it normal that I am having new feelings, especially for someone this close to my ex, so soon?

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    Wow you sound just like me. I had that exact situation. Despite my ex (of about a month and a half) not wanting me and his close friend to be together we went out anyway. It lasted a good 3 or 4 months. I loved him so much but he wasn't treating me right and I had to move on and I liked his friend. Sadly I hurt him but he hurt me first by being a jerk so he kind of deserved it. Anyway the new bf was always asking me about my ex which was uncomfortable. I'm happy with my choice to date his friend because it shows him that he can't treat his girlfriends badly or it will have consequences. Good luck!!

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    Be careful how you proceed. Your ex may not like this at all and if it becomes obvious at a public event, things may flare up. I think your ex's friend needs to discuss this with him and see how the land lies.

    This situation arose with people I know and the ex was so jealous and unreasonable that it made the relationship impossible. They decided not to pursue it, despite liking each other.

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    • NothingxCrazy
      12 years ago

      Were they teenagers that this happened with? And were they dating for a short period of time, AND was it a mutual break up?

      If they're happier apart, I don't see why her ex would get upset. But that could just be my view. Some people get jealous for no reason so maybe it would be better to take the safe approach.

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      • dappled
        12 years ago

        She was 22 and he was 26. They dated for less than two weeks and she then decided that she just wasn't attracted to him. However, she had similar interests (particularly musically) to one of his friends. She kept in touch with the friend and they arranged a date something like two months later. The original boyfriend turned up in the same bar and sat in the corner, glaring at them.

        He was a very jealous and childish man. When I was introduced to him, she must have said that I was either clever or had a good vocabulary, and this was really sticking in his craw. I was trying to be nice and have a conversation with him and he kept answering questions with: "Indubitably, sir!". I thought he was an utter tosspot and if I hadn't have been on my best behaviour, I'd have metagrobolised him by using a word such as metagrobolise.

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