Is it normal that i like my boyfriend being in control of me?

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Lately my boyfriend has become more and more controlling inside the bedroom and out. I love it! he 'punishes' me by spanking me or by giving me timeouts to humiliate me when I don't obey him. It all just feels so right, and so good. I'm very happy that he orders me around and tells me he's the boss of me. I would even be happy if he controlled me more. I like it when he dictates what I'm allowed to wear, when it's time to eat, when I go out with friends etc. I know it sounds strange but I love having to ask him for permission to do something. It's just that when I talk to my friends none of them have a relationship even close to what mine is. If I let them know what was going on behind closed doors they would think I'm being abused! I'm just wondering if it's normal? I read about relationships like this, but maybe they're just a fantasy. Does anyone else actually live it?

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Based on 37 votes (23 yes)
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  • MR.mr
    8 years ago

    As long as it doesn't turn into physical abuse and you both like it than why not.

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  • postmanlover
    8 years ago

    are u a guy?

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    • confusedandinlove
      8 years ago

      No lol. Last time I checked I was born, and still am, a female. Just wondering if anyone else has a consensual relationship like mine.

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  • Lariii
    8 years ago

    It's a different sort of relationship than normal, but I think it's perfectly fine as long as it's consensual between the two of you, however I'd be a little bit cautious in case he goes a bit too controlling, but as long as you both have a healthy respect for each other and communicate then it shouldn't.

    Also, as long as he doesn't try to stop you from seeing your friends. I wouldn't mention it to your friends too casually in case they think he's being controlling.

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  • modernism
    8 years ago

    I'm guessing you'd like calling him "daddy" too.

    But if you both enjoy that kind of relationship and it doesn't get too insane, then I see no problem.

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    • confusedandinlove
      8 years ago

      Ugh no, I hate that. He's my boyfriend not my dad. Calling him that would creep us both out.

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      • modernism
        8 years ago

        Oh. I just thought since the relationship sounded like a parent-child dynamic. Nothing wrong with it thought if you both enjoy it.

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        • confusedandinlove
          8 years ago

          I think it's more of a 1950's couple dynamic rather than a parent child. He's like the man of the house and I take care of him and his needs.

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          • Karlw195
            5 years ago

            I’m not sure where people get the idea that spanking your wife in the 50s was acceptable or common place. I’m a 50s child and he wasn’t a thing then well not in the uk

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  • cumforfunn
    8 years ago

    I don't like the sound of this....

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    I like it when my women control me like this ^-^

    I'm sure there's some underline issue here causing this... but I'm guilty of it too so idk \(._.)/

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    Sounds like daddy issues.

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    • confusedandinlove
      8 years ago

      I had and have a healthy relationship with both my parents. No daddy issues for me

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      • Short4Words
        8 years ago

        The timeouts seem a little much but what does it matter to me.

        It's not normal but far from the stranger things I've heard of.

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