Is it normal that i like controlling men?

I am attracted to men who control me, ones who will lead and make decisions on my behalf. This comes with an expectation that I would be the "goodwife" type who cooks, cleans serves the man. I find this lifestyle very attractive and usually end up dating men of middle eastern/indian heritage because of their culture.

The vibe i get from most women today is that they prefer to be more domination and career-driven. So i must be very oldfashioned.

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Based on 186 votes (153 yes)
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Comments ( 18 )
  • aussiewolf

    well that is your choice. its men who try to force women into doing this that annoys me.

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  • killiminati

    Wow where have you been all my life! Lol but jokes aside. a girl like you would be interesting to have since I tend to want to control things but usually don't since I always wanna please my gf lol

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  • SpontaneousSteve

    I love a woman like you ha :) I'm a really good guy, so it wouldn't be a problem

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  • maybenot678

    I like working and contributing but I find dominating guys very sexii

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  • ms_babygirl23

    I feel yah on that one. As long as he's not abusive or mean.

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  • Timbuck55

    Well everyone is different.. I'm sure you'll get multiple comments from women telling you that you shouldn't be like that but it is what it is. I personally do not like that type of woman myself because it just annoys me. Also be careful with how you describe it because controlling and dominant are two different things. Being controlled by someone is not very healthy, but liking a strong dominate man I don't think is abnormal at all. Some women are designed to be housewifes while others are designed to be career women.. To each their own!

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  • Scrat

    I'm a dude and I don't even like it !

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  • kellibean.no.1

    This is normal & common, but I wonder your age & background. As a young, sheltered girl, I loved controlling men because I lacked the knowledge/confidence to make decisions on my own. Now that I'm older, I don't need that. Now being controlled is a turn off & freedom is sexy, but leadership & guidance will never stop being sexy in a man (leadership & controlling are two different things).

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  • pranksterb

    my kinda woman

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  • alexanderbeckerismail

    man should controls , women should understand that this is the only way of love in our thoughts . sorry but if there is a man doesn't control his woman , for sure he doesn't control his life as a man .

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  • -WhySoSerious-

    I'm an Arab guy, i never allow myself to control anyone's decisions.

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  • I wish I had a man take over me to where my only worries were going to the gym and the beach. Ahh the good ol' days

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  • BoredGuy

    good, if you are good at bed then you are the perfect woman

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  • I think it would be fine, but only if:
    -you are older,
    -you can change your mind about it at anytime, without fear of consequences,
    -you are not doing it because you were brainwashed as a child to believe that a woman's only position in a relationship with a man, is inferior and subservient to the male.

    I suggest you get a safe-word for when you don't want to play out your fantasy anymore. So, if you are going into this as a strong woman yourself, then let your freak flag fly.

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  • SwimBikeRun

    I agree with Tumbuck. Perhaps you would rather say that you are more attracted to an oldfashioned or traditional relationship rather than controlling. Controlling is scary and not healthy.

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  • gako

    I agree. Great advice randomjelly!

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  • matilda10

    Randomjelly - you sound very down to earth, always have great advice. Cheers to you :)

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  • randomjelly

    You will never know who you are as long as you are being what someone else tells you to be.

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