Is it normal that i lie about not being a virgin?

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I'm a 19 year old female and still a virgin. I get alot of attention and have had alot of chances to loose it but i can't go through with it. I spend alot of time with guys and go on dates so everyone just assumes i'm no longer a virgin and i go along with it. I even have abit of a reputation for spending the night with guys but no one knows i don't sleep with them but i just say i do because i'm too embarrassed to admit that i'm actually still a virgin. is it normal to lie about this kind of thing?

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  • SuperBenzid
    11 years ago

    I think there is real virgin shaming problem in our culture. I'm not religious or anything, I just think people should choose to have sex when they want to and not be shamed into it as some sort of right of passage. Personally while certainly a fun activity I think sex has been blown way out of proportion just so they can sell movies, books and cds. It's sad.

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  • Anime7
    11 years ago

    I do the same thing, except I'm a guy. Whenever I'm around other guys I'm not friends with, and we talk about girls and sex, I just go along with what they say and try to act like I know what I'm talking about.

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      same here...

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      • Anime7
        11 years ago

        Glad I'm not alone.

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        • [Old Memory]
          11 years ago

          That said, all of my *close* guy friends know. I'm not ashamed, it'll happen when it happens.

          But if I'm talking to guys I don't know very well, then I will masquerade as though I have done it. There's a virginity taboo of sorts, at my age at least, (19 y.o.) and I dont want to be ostracized, because strangers tend to judge each other based on norms and stereotypes and such

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          • Anime7
            11 years ago

            Ya practically all of my friends know. I'm a little ashamed, but it's mainly cause I've never even as so much held a girl's hand, so I sometimes wonder if there's something wrong with me.

            Ya I agree with you on the whole being judged for social norms and stereotypes. I'm 18 and it seems like everyone is at least getting to second base and I just in the sideline tired of waiting.

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            • [Old Memory]
              11 years ago

              Oh I understand *exactly* where you're coming from, man. Forgive my profanity, but whats important to remember is: dont put the pussy up on a pedestal. Know what you want and assert yourself. Girls are not divine goddesses.

              I know it sounds absurd for a virgin to lecture a fellow virgin, but I have been to second base and the way I did it is by taking the wheel. If she *doesn't* want it, she will say so, and you can back off without shame. But dont wait until she makes it clear that she *does* want it, because that will probably never happen. You have to make it clear what you want. Whether its a girl or anybody else in life, you have to make it clear what you want and go for it. Don't let people use you as a means to their ends.

              Just respect yourself, know that you deserve what you want and go after it. It'll happen for both of us.

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  • Dan-The-Man1992
    11 years ago

    i'm 20 and i am a virgin, i believe firmly in no sex before marriage or at the very least only with someone you have strong feelings for, i do sometimes feel embarrassed to share that and have lied on occasion about it but all in all if that is who you are who are they to judge you, you will lose it when you feel it is time

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    It's normal. I used to be in this predicament as well. It was kind of funny, it wasn't until after six months of being (very) sexually active with my boyfriend before he was like.... "Oh my god, it never occurred to me that you were a virgin...". It was hilarious.

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  • PKYAZ
    11 years ago

    You should be fucking proud ! Being a virgin os one of the things you should cherish and love. You're pure amd precious that way

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  • bubbles:)
    11 years ago

    I made a whole bunch of new friends at Uni and unlike my old friends they don't know I'm a virgin, they assumed I had had sex. They usually assume it fairly loudly while making jokes at parties so the saying they're wrong seems like it would just cause me trouble. But I definitely intend to tell them if the convo comes up in a more private setting. I think if you really trust them you should tell them when you feel comfortable. It's nothing to be ashamed of.

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  • muahbabyblue15
    11 years ago

    Lol thats stupid im sorry lol

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  • twinklesstar
    11 years ago

    It's normal but lying is never a good habit.

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  • YesterdaysGone
    11 years ago

    Yes I use to do that all the time..

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  • hybee
    11 years ago

    At your age it's not just normal to lie about it, it's more or less compulsory.

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  • NotStrangeBird
    11 years ago

    Better than saying you're a slut.

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