Is it normal that i let my husband have sex with someone else?

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My husband was raised in a polygamous household. His father was a practicing muslim while his mother was not she was Baptist/Protestant. After we had been married 2.5 years (one child), my husband approached me about having
a polygamous marriage but I was totally against that. Before we were married we talked about this and he said that he would never want that.

Well, after a long discussion we narrowed down the fact that the real issue was that he wanted to have multiple sexual partners and only wanted to "do the right thing" and not use another woman just for sex and that was why he proposed polygamy. However, I expressed that in turn that meant he used me so we decided to find a compromise and that was not allowing him to do anything but sex because as a woman and as his wife I could not deal with him having an emotional attachment to another woman. That part was way more agonizing than thinking about him having casual sex with someone else.

Okay so...continuing...so that whole scenario caused a HUGE strain on our relationship and we were very near divorce. While we were separated he met this younger woman (20...I'm 30 and he is 32) and she was willing to have a sexual relationship with him understanding that he is married and that they can't date, go out, court...nothing but have sex and she agreed to it. (Honestly, I didn't think there were women out there like that.) So I let him do this two times but now I don't want to. I think I've put my marriage on a slippery slope and I'm just wondering if this is normal.

is it normal that I let him do it?
is it normal that he does this but says that we still have good sex he just wants variety? *GUYS* Is he just trying to save my feelings?
is it normal that this young woman really only wants sex or is she probably hoping our marriage will end so she can be the clean up woman?
is it normal that I want this to stop?
is it normal to think that all men are like this?
is it normal that he doesn't want me to have a boyfriend when I say I want one?

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Based on 45 votes (14 yes)
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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    The person least mentioned in all this is your infant child, who deserves better than this.

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  • catocato52028
    13 years ago

    ^^^^ wat moomus said

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  • dude_Jones
    11 years ago

    Selfish jerk. Divorce him immediately. It will be hard, but after you heal from the pain, a fresh life will await you.

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  • --ash--
    13 years ago

    How can moomus say he sounds selfish, all he wants to do is share the love around a bit.

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  • moomus
    13 years ago

    He sounds selfish. If he thought your sex life was great he wouldn't want anyone else. I'd say get out, he's having his cake and eating it. Kick him to the kerb, you deserve better. You can't satisfy a man like that. His problem not yours

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  • dobaky
    12 years ago

    it's Normal and this is a Mercy in Islam for man if he need more sexuality and at the same time he don't need to feel guilty when he sleep with a stranger woman !

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