Is it normal that i kinda hate who my best friend has become?

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My best friend from high school and I are both in out first year at college, and we go to different schools about 3 hours from each other, but we visit each other's schools sometimes. She was visiting recently, and I found myself wanting to kill her at least once an hour. She kept on passive-aggressively bringing up that her college is 2 rankings above mine(saying things like "I'm gonna wear my school shirt so everyone knows I'm better than them"), and criticizing EVERYTHING about my school, like how "nobody even tries to look cute" and "ugh nothing is ever happening on this campus how do you not die of boredom".
Also, all through high school, she had a steady relationship, but they broke up after they moved away, and she's become really promiscuous ever since. I don't really mind, but then when she was here, she was trying to hook up with one of my best guy friends even after I told her that she shouldn't because one of the girls in the room with us had a huge thing for him.
I kind of don't like her a lot of the time now. But even during that, we had moments when I remembered why we were best friends. I don't know if I'm being overly sensitive because so many things she said and did were such personal insults, or if she really is unbearable.

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  • suckonthis9
    12 years ago

    It's unfortunate that this has happened to you. Relationships change over time.
    Time to move on.
    I had a good friend when I was growing up that turned out to be a diddler. I was shocked, time to move on.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Gooood...let the hate flow through you!

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    "even after I told her that she shouldn't because one of the girls in the room with us had a huge thing for him. "

    How do you know he'd even WANT the other girl in the first place?

    You can't bash her for "stealing" a free-willed person. Or suggest that she stopped him from seeing the other girl.

    To me the whole "you can't date him cos she wants him" line is BS. If a couple wants to be together they shouldn't have to stay apart just because someone else plays the jealousy card.

    And in all honesty, i'm starting to think that all the hatred aimed at her stems mainly from this. the comments about her being a slut, the comments about her being stuck up... i'm thinking it's all because she "stole" a man.

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  • Malaglinir
    12 years ago

    She doesn't even sound that bad. Maybe this is one of those things where you would have to be in your place, but from what I read, she sounds really tame minus trying to get with your friend. That part sounds like some bs and I would be mad.

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    Unfortunately this happens quite a bit, people change and grow apart with time. I know it hurts, but don't worry too much. You have other friends, right?

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  • nAt2017
    12 years ago

    People change as time goes on, that's just how life works. This probably isn't what you want to hear, but moving on is all you can do. The only universal constant is change.

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  • mim90
    12 years ago

    things change, relationships change, people change i think its time to move on and face the facts.

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  • cipher
    12 years ago

    Yes, I feel that is normal. People do change over time. However I would like to say that if still think there is a little bit of your best friend in her, maybe you should talk to her about this change you have observed. There may be reasons for this. Maybe she does not have friends at her new college who appreciate her and she wants to make herself feel good by showing off.

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    Normal. People change. Friendships change. It's all part of life...sad, but true.

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