Is it normal that i just want to fall in love? (i'm a guy)

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I distract myself with friends and school, but I spend a lot of time alone. I spend what I feel like is an obscenely abnormal amount of time fantasizing about being in love, falling in love, caring about someone, cuddling, etc...

I'm five months out of a year-long relationship with the only girlfriend I've been with. It was perfectly wonderful, but we were forced to separate. I know that I'm addicted to love now.

A couple days ago, a female friend joked about having sex with me. I really can't tell if it was a joke, but just the thought of it has really been antagonizing me. I've been crying myself to sleep for several nights in a row because I can't stop thinking about being close to her and holding her; I feel like it is something that will probably never happen. It was probably really just a joke.

The people around me, at my school don't even seem to want to fall in love. Am I hopeless? Would you love someone like me? Am I normal?

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Based on 70 votes (67 yes)
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  • 8==D
    12 years ago

    Sir, you are not alone. You had a girlfriend for a year? I can't even hold onto the ones I love for a day. I have been damned to the friend zone.

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    • demonspirit17
      12 years ago

      Bro, I've been where you are except one time. I'm still in love this girl too. We met last school year and I've liked her since then. I told her how I felt last October, I got her on Jan 31St. We went to a Valentine's dance together on the 12th. We broke up on the 21St and she's now dating my best friend. I've been in love, am in love and obsessed with it too.

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    Love is a beautiful thing that everyone should experience at least once in their life. I think the break up was really tough on you, especially since you said it was forced. I think that you need closure because their is a whole in your heart that needs filling. From your thoughts I can tell that you are a wonderful guy who only wants love. I think any girl you have is lucky. Anyways, the only advice that I can suggests is to take a risk with that girl who "jokingly" offered you sex. Maybe she could be the one who can pull you out of the abyss that is slowly plunging you towards a pit of depression.

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    • LoveWhale
      12 years ago

      Holy shit! I have no idea how you extracted all of that out of what I wrote; It's exactly how I feel...

      I'm hoping that maybe this girl is interested in falling in love. Even if it's for only one night.

      Thanks.

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      • Anime7
        12 years ago

        Whatever happens I hope that it all goes well for you friend.

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  • idranktheseawater
    12 years ago

    It's quite normal, my first relationship lasted just over a year (decided he was a douche). I adore the feeling of falling in love~

    Also: You sound like a very lovable, sweet person.

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    • LoveWhale
      12 years ago

      Sorry you were with a 'douche' for so long!

      Thank you for that "Also." :D

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      • idranktheseawater
        12 years ago

        xD No problem.

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  • John5
    12 years ago

    Well you probably acting more mature then the other kids in your school. it's pretty normal to me!

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  • UnwrittenPoet94
    12 years ago

    Aww, thats perfectly normal. I myself just got out of a year and a half relationship. Its been really difficult, and I want to fall in love too. But like the old saying says "Don't look for love, wait for it to come to you". And ask yourself this : do you want somebody so that you won't be by yourself and lonely, or do you genuinely want to love somebody for who they are and have them love you for who you are? If you can't honestly answer that question, I don't think you're ready for a relationship. Maybe you should try letting yourself heal first and then seeking something when you're whole again and can be yourself and know what you want. I'm going through that right now, so I get how you feel. Hope everything goes good. And remember : when spring comes, the snow melts, but one flake at a time. So take it slow and don't do anything rash, because then both of you will wind up being hurt.

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  • mexiguytex87
    12 years ago

    Oh love, it makes the world go round. That's magical holding each other, staring in each others eyes kissing on and of for hours, doing crazy things like running in the rain together. Then a child is born and its starts all over again! Life is great if you focus only on the positive!

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  • Shackleford96
    12 years ago

    I feel for you bro. It's normal. Rare, but normal. Don't become a shell of a person though. Don't withdraw and give up hope. Get out there and find someone new and start the repair process. Good luck with your future relationships.

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  • pala
    12 years ago

    Fine if you're thinking about women. Not cool if you want this with fish or fowl. That would be fishy and foul.

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  • Faceless
    12 years ago

    Stand on hate then. Its way easier.

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