Is it normal that i intend to keep my talents hidden?

Recently I got scolded by a friend because he told me that I should proudly display my talents and shine the brightest. That by hiding my talents I just pass as dull and even mysterious. Many people are surprised when I display my talents or achievements. Like that I'm the head of my own research paper and research, or even the things that I like and that my feelings and thoughts are amazing. However ,I dislike to be in the spotlight, I don't want to spend too much time. The truth is that as a person I've suffered a lot, it was really agonizing and perhaps my talents and will that allowed me to achieve what I have achieved is out of that. But I don't want to impress anybody or be the center of attention. And when I do display my talents, tell of my achievements or display who I am people are easily attracted or fond of me easily. I feel like I've got all the friends I need, and the minimal attention Therefore, Is it normal that I hide my talents, achievements and myself behind a dull behavior. I just do not want to stand out and be praised... I really dislike praise.

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Based on 56 votes (43 yes)
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  • Hippie

    Be who you are most comfortably.

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  • kingsleycrowne

    I was a bit like you.
    As an artist, people would always tell me how talented I was but I was always uneasy about showing off my work, because of how humble I was. Many say that I should be advertising my artistry skills to companies and doing something with it but I've found the hard part for me as an artist has been deciding whether or not to embrace commercialism. Do I allow my work to be hyped and exploited by a market that's simply hungry for the next new thing? Do I participate in a system that turns high art into low art so it's better suited for mass consumption? Of course, when an artist goes commercial, he makes a mockery of his status as an outsider and free thinker. He buys into the crass and shallow values art should transcend. He trades the integrity of his art for riches and fame. It's something I've struggled with for far too long.

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  • bananaface

    I personally don't see it as hiding. I think the alternative that your friend mentions could be seen as showing off (at least to me) and if it is, then I tend to really dislike that sort of thing. I think it's stupid and arrogant. There's taking pride in your achievements and then there's shoving them in people's face unnecessarily.

    I think you're fine the way you are, and I'm sort of similar. As long as you aren't deliberately concealing your "talents", then I don't see the harm. I would have thought it would be more advantageous to be like that. I personally really dislike being overestimated, and I'd much prefer being able to pleasantly surprise someone than disappoint them. Also, I think it can be a good idea to keep something to yourself instead of laying it all out on the table, so to speak.:P God, I know what I mean in my head but I'm having a hard time wording it.

    Either way, you're fine and you're just being yourself. I see nothing wrong with sharing your talents, but no need to rub it in people's face. Just like there being nothing wrong with keeping what you want to yourself.:)

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  • americanhoney

    Dappled, is that you?
    *snort*

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    • Hahaha, good one. XD

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  • Fabulous

    I show my talent to everyone it's my dick

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  • MilleBornes

    in the long run you'll regret that decision. this situation is therapy worthy. You seem to be comparing or associating praise with insults or abuse. Whether it's mental physical, or emotional. This could be like say: as a child, you did something great but someone ALWAYS bet that you didn't deserve the praise, bet on u to fail, or never acknowledged the good things, but ALWAYS pointed out something they didn't like.

    Being successful in life, at least on Earth, is synonymous with being put on spot. Promotions, awards, musical or any other artists. All in the spotlight. The fry cook in McDonald's will be put on spot if he were the worst cook ever or if he was the best or if he was in the middle cause someone would want them to do better and obviously he doesn't want to do worse.

    You're putting yourself on the spot and drawing more attention to yourself because anyone who knows you, knows that you should be on top, but it's weird because you're not.

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  • You are guarding your heart. Your friend meant well, I'm sure

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Fair enough.

    I wish i had talents to hide.

    apparently there are no science rockets.

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  • NotStrangeBird

    "Sometimes the cards are worth it to have if you don't lay them down"

    - The Grateful Dead

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    • disthing

      I think you mean:

      "Sometimes your cards ain't worth a dime, if you don't lay'em down"

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      • NotStrangeBird

        Holy shit I've been misinterpreting that song for decades!

        What a retard.

        ...or maybe I'm just playing down my talents.

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