Is it normal that i identify with being a tragic figure?

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So, I had a difficult childhood and when I wad younger I always used it as an excuse, but now I'm beginning to romanticize it and use it as the crucial part of my identity and explanation for everything that's happening now.I actually brag about my family being messed up and overly soap opera-ish.I'm even planning on commiting suicide in 10 years or so in case my life doesn't turn out the way I hoped.I also identify with a lot of book characters with tragic endings, like Emma Bovary and instead of trying to fight it, I just embrace it.

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Based on 25 votes (12 yes)
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  • Holzman_67
    10 years ago

    This is dangerous behavior. It is victimization and self pity. Get it out of your head, refuse to be a victim. I'm sorry but this is no way to live, please seriously consider changing your mindframe.

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    • RoseIsabella
      10 years ago

      Tell it! :-)

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    • ♡Primadonna♡
      10 years ago

      I know it's VERY dangerous, but that's why I'm so attached to it.

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        Are you into vampires too?

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        • [Old Memory]
          10 years ago

          My ferret gamma sharted.

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          • RoseIsabella
            10 years ago

            Wash your weasel!

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            • [Old Memory]
              10 years ago

              You should wash my weasel.

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  • Anime7
    10 years ago

    You're not a tragic figure, in the traditional sense, in order to be that it would mean that you started off in a respected position and then fell to the status of a pauper. It sounds like you have a special snowflake mentality. As if you're the only one who grew up in a messed up household. It doesn't sound like you really embraced so much as brag about it because it's not the ideal, hence thinking you're special. In the end you're just bragging about something. But why?

    Here's where the actual advice and empathy comes into play. I understand that our experiences shape who we are, and I think it's sort of great that you realize that. Bad life events help us grow. However, and I granted I don't know in person, it doesn't seem you grew from these experiences. It just seems like you sort of use these experiences to gain sympathy from people, but at the same time brag that you're wiser than other people. If you want to be seen as someone who's wise then just trying being patient. We all have a lot of growing to do, but going through a lot of bad has its good. Just focus on that, it's ok to focus on experiences but don't romanticizes them. See them for what they are and stop creating unnecessary drama in your memories. Your life is your life and you choose how you want to live it. Just try to be a good person, learn from your experiences, and practice being humble.

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