Is it normal that i hope my gay friends will turn straight someday?

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I have many gay and lesbian friends. I like all of them and I am pretty close to some. Mostly, we have a great friendship, I support their lifestyle 100% and I defend them whenever someone speaks ill of them just because of their sexuality.

However... deep inside... I kind of wish they stopped being homosexuals. I kind of wished I didn't feel like that, but I do and I can't do nothing about it. I know it would break my friends' hearts if I ever told them that as well...

It is not like I am homophobic or anything... I just kind of wished they could have a normal and simple life. Being gay is hard and I kind of believe that they will never be truly accepted by anyone.

Also, I always imagined all of us as old people, having parties with all our families... but I know now that most of them will never even be able to have a family.

I don't know... how can I get these feelings out of me? Is it normal thinking like this?

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  • Pwnfacertwn
    10 years ago

    Instead of wishing for them to be "normal," why don't you simply accept the fact that they are? Maybe wish for people to stop being assholes to them or perhaps actually do something about it.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Thats silly you're silly.

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  • Chillypenguin178
    4 years ago

    Ah yes. The infamous "I'm not homophobic/transphobic, *but*..." speech.

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  • ScooterNyne
    10 years ago

    rather than hoping for what cannot change, why not spread the word of acceptance and be there for them when the need it. It's normal for you to want your buds to have normal easy lives. We all want that for ourselves and each other.

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  • GreyWulfen
    10 years ago

    You should hope that people that make gay peoples life hard will change someday and stop being assholes.

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  • kaegrl23
    10 years ago

    just tell them you cant be there friends if theyre gay! GAYS ARE DISGUSTING AND LOVVEEE BUTTSEX!!!!

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  • Stifler
    10 years ago

    Would bisexual be okay?

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    You are contradicting yourself... Instead of wishing they were something they aren't and could never be; you should wake up to reality and try learn about the concept of "acceptance".

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  • lex-dex
    10 years ago

    It's absolutely normal! You want the best for your friends because you care for them, so you want them to have a normal lifestyle. (Not saying that being gay isn't normal, especially nowadays) But it's normal for you to want them to have a similar lifestyle to yours so that when you do have families you don't go your separate ways due to differing lifestyles.

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  • CheyChey
    10 years ago

    I do understand where you're coming from but what you're doing is kinda like waiting to board a boat at the airport, it'll never happen! This is who they are and it'll never change at least be happy they are being true to who they truly are, there are loads of closeted homosexuals who will never come out or if they do it's later on in their lives and that's pretty sad.

    As for having families there are many ways to have a baby these days even heterosexual couples follow these routes to.have babies. Thank heavens for technology bringing unconventional ways of having families. As for society and how homosexual are hated on there is nothing you can do.about it, humans have a predisposition to resist change and the fact that more and more homosexuals are coming out they have a hard accepting this if they ever come to accept it. I respect your friends so much even if I don't know them, it takes an immense amount of courage to live as a homosexual in the open. You are a good friend your worries are a bit selfish this is what they are and what they'll be and I say this nicely get over it!

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  • sliver_shine29
    10 years ago

    No no, I get you. You just want your friends to be happy and be treated "normal". But remember, society defines normal. Just trust your friends that they will do whatever makes them happy in the end. But I think it's very sweet of you to think that way about them. It's very caring.

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