Is it normal that i haven't reacted to the cancer?

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Well, to put it simply, my father has cancer. He told me a little less than a week ago. He'd already gone through remission, but now it's sprung up again. I remember I was a bit depressed when he had it a few years back, but, now, I really just haven't had any feelings. I'm not numb, though. I just feel... normal? I don't know.

I guess it hasn't really sunk in. He's getting an operation tomorrow or the day after. I don't know how serious it is. Honestly, I haven't asked many questions. I know it was something in his throat before, but now I'm just clueless. He told me when he was picking me up from school, in front of my best friend.

Last time, I really didn't say anything about it to her (though she knew because of her mom or something). I remember I cried for about five minutes last time before distracting myself with comedies. When he told me this time, though, I just went "aw" and that's about it. I love my father, I truly do, but why haven't I reacted to it? Most people would be crying or at least have some sort of effect, wouldn't they? Is this normal?

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  • karmasAbich
    12 years ago

    First off, Im very sorry. Second, It's hard to say. I have times like this, where emotion just doesnt come into play. Perhaps your mind has already processed the thought, and now your subconscious is supressing it. Best of wishes to your family.

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  • Acym
    12 years ago

    Well. I know the feeling. I didnt react at All When my grandfather died from cancer.. It was actually pretty embarrasing.. Sitting in church, being the only one not crying.. I would say its normal. Sometimes there is just too many things to worry about at one time so some things must be pushed away..

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  • kellstar79
    12 years ago

    Not the reaction I would have

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  • Darkoil
    12 years ago

    Maybe you have realised there is nothing you can do about it so what's the point in worrying or crying, life goes on with or without your father.

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  • moomus
    12 years ago

    My dad had cancer and I didn't react to it. I just thought oh ok then, and went through the motions. I think it's a coping mechanism and is normal. Best wishes to u all x

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