Is it normal that i haven't kissed someone in 4 years?

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Alright.

I had my first kiss on my first date when I was 15. I didn't really know the guy and when he moved in for the kiss I jumped away, but then he pulled me back and we kissed. It was a weird feeling and it's not that I don't like the idea of kissing but it was uncomfortable - perhaps he was only a bad kisser I don't know.

Anyways, so I didn't end up going out with him, and so far that's been my only sexual contact with guys. Now I'm almost 19 and I never even had a date since that first time.

I would love to have someone with me but everytime I get the slightest chance I make up excuses why I shouldn't go out with that person. Am I just too picky? I don't want to be with someone that I can't imagine spending the rest of my life with - someone I love. But at the same time I don't want to wait for another 4 years without anything going on.

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  • JuliusE
    13 years ago

    Don't worry, a man will come swoop you off your feet (I did to my girl who was in the same position you are) and we are getting married :). The fact that she hadnt done anything with anyone else Made everything more special and meaningful. She is sooo happy she waited, but was feeling the sane way you are now

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  • motorstorm59
    13 years ago

    I havent for 6 :/

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  • willchr2004
    14 years ago

    Man up...ul never know if you dont try. Get off your bum, meet these people and kiss them...its a kiss for christ sake! You dont need to be considering the word 'love' until youv at least kissed them!
    I was sexually attracted to my girlfriend at first, I would never imagine spending the rest of my life with her originally. Now, i have grown and fallen in love with her and who knows, i may consider the rest of my life with her.

    Test the waters with people, you never know, something might just click?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Here's my story my first kiss was when I was 4 and I continued until I was 6 now Im 13 and haven't had a kiss since yeah I must have been more atractive as a kid I probley kissed 5 diff guys

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  • rawr!
    14 years ago

    I was the same way lol first kiss at 14 with a guy (Ima chick) then I never got with anyone for 4 years cuz I was never attracted to em or cuz I didn't want to then I met my gf and she was my first kiss in 4 years :) so yea it's normal maybe your just waiting for your special someone. Goodluck :)

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  • Sandra18
    14 years ago

    Um im 18, and i think its best just to have some fun, i dont mean go out and have sex with who-ever you want in back alleys, i mean meet new people and just see where it leads, just follow your instincts youll know wether you want to kiss them or not. Dont worry

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  • tigerlily
    14 years ago

    Maybe you didn't really like him or maybe you are gay. Get some experience under your belt. How do you know what you like and don't like at 19 years of age. Maybe, you were afarid he would want sex and you are not ready for that, which is fine.Be yourself and good luck.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    i haven't even kissed anybody and your first was already 15.. you're too stressed about it. don't try so hard to find him. if you don't think about the perfect guy too much he'll just come surprisingly in your life. expect the unexpected right? who knows maybe your true love is you enemy/ best friend or someone totally NOT your type (hehe XD) or something

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  • daisy
    14 years ago

    don't worry chic! u just need 2 chill out and not worry about it and it will happen when u least exspect it, if u like the person jus go witht he flow....gud luck!!

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  • xnoelle25
    14 years ago

    I had my first at 18. The guy kind of forced me into it. It was gross. He was gross. I wish I could erase it out of my mind. Don't rush kisses.

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  • Telephone2421
    14 years ago

    i nv you

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  • w85lf
    14 years ago

    you're only 19, no pressure there, it's perfectly normal especially that your first kiss was vile

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  • bazwell
    14 years ago

    It is quite normal at your age to look forward to finding someone with whom you might spend the rest of your life. It is highly unlikely that this would be the case however. It might be helpful to see dating and relationships you get into now as learning grounds that can teach you a lot about adult intimate relationship. Some of these may have the potential to last long term, while others may last as long as it takes you to think about them. Kissing and intimacy as a whole, will follow when you are with someone you are attracted to, who you also care about. In order to find these relationship, you may have to stop giving excuses to avoid these situations, especially when you are attracted to or seriously like the person doing the asking.

    best of luck to you.

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  • Noodles
    13 years ago

    Don't wait for Mr Right.
    You need practice.
    Go party.

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  • matty1985
    14 years ago

    Right hun get out their get cocked before you get to old otherwise you will be a 50 summit sat at home with yeh cats not being funny but you are 19 and shoud be having fun not pondering over a kiss 4 years ago JUST GET SOME DICK WILL YEH JUST PUT OUT AL GIVE YOU SOME LADS NUMBERS IF YOU WANT good lads not scally wags so dont worry x

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