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I have only had one sexual partner in my life. I lost my virginity at 20, and had sex literally 3 times when my partner had to move away for work, and we stopped seeing each other.
I have not gone on any dates, or been able to get close to anybody, and it really bothers me. Is it normal not to be with somebody for 2 years...
I guess part of my problem is that I don't just want to have sex for the sake of having sex, yes I want to have it. But for me anyway, I want it to be with somebody that I really care about, not just a one night stand.
I'm definitely the same way. Sometimes I catch myself in this internal dialogue:
"Yeah! Tonight I'm going to go out, get drunk, and pull some mildly attractive floozy back to my place at 2AM! Yeah, couldn't I just be that awesome!?"
But then the more I think about it, the more I realize that it's not what I really want. I'd only be doing it for the sake of doing it, and in the end I would be left feeling unfulfilled.
What I really want is a companion, not just a sex partner for one night.
But yeah, I voted normal because for me it will be three years in March... but who's counting, right?
Is your sexual partner never gonna come back? if yes then move on, try taking interest in you at first, if you only will not want to be happy or want to meet someone, how can you expect it from other..
just loosen up a lil bit, enjoy parties, meet new guys, have sex, enjoy life...
Don't take stress about all this stuff, relax, you will find someone and till then enjoy porn, it will help..
2 years, that's it? Pffft, sorry but come back once it hits 8, then ask if it's normal. You might laugh at this question, like I just did.
i have a similar story. I lost my virginity at 18, senior year of high school to my girlfriend and we also did it 3 times. And i haven't done it since, but i also don't want to do it, and wish i hadn't in high school. Now i've come to realize that i have no interest in casual meaningless sex, and only want to do it with someone very special to me. I thought i found that person freshman year of college and we were going to wait 1 year before having sex, well 11 months and 15 days go by and then i realize she is an evil selfish bitch and I broke up with her. Haven't met anyone special since then.
It seems like you feel ashamed for not having sex. Don't be ashamed for not having sex. I lost mine at age 21 since I thought I had to catch up with a friend. I had about 9 partners since age 21. I'm 37 now. I can count about 5 of them in my early 20s all within 2 years of each other. These were one night stands. The other 4 or so were spread out over the early 2000s. I haven't had sex in about 2 years. I am not dating anyone and I am not looking to date anyone either. My priorities are to get a job, pay my bills and pay my mom's bills since she is 60, not to find a date or to get married. It's OKAY if you don't have sex daily. It's also OKAY that you don't have sex with someone on a regular basis.
What someone thinks is moral is personal. Just like some women may think of themselves as a "slut" if they have sex with 4 different men in a 4 month time period, you don't have to think of yourself as an "old maid". Our sexuality goes much more beyond how often we have sex with others.
Your question is a little two part. Is it normal to NOT have sex for 2 years? And is it normal to NOT be with someone. Are you asking if it is normal to be single? It is perfectly fine to be single. If this person left you and if you have not heard from him in 6 weeks after having a serious sexual relationship, then let him go honey.
Your point is right. Now, I would only want to have sex with people that I love. When I was in my early 20s, I had sex for sex, not for love. And if you want to have sex with a person you love - and if you want to wait to find that person, nothing is wrong with that. I'm not saying you have to wait until marriage, but you can wait another 2 years to find a man and have sex. But you can also get toys if you feel you need it. There is no shame in being single and not having sex with a man (or woman). Do what feels right for your body. Respect your body.
I find it hard to go more than two weeks. My hat is off to you, I'd seriously have raped someone by now if I were you.
Just to add to the original question. I am a guy, and I have completely gotten over the girl I was with. I have no feelings towards them and would not get back together with them at this point.
The problem is that I just can't meet anybody new. There aren't any girls in any of my classes in university, and I don't have any friends that can introduce me to anybody.
Because of that I don't go to a lot of parties, or out to the bar ever.
Um, you are a guy? Man, that would have helped me in answering your question. Same thing. respect your body. I can't believe that you haven't had sex in 2 years though. Man have to get it out each and every 3 days. I hope you do things yourself if you are not having sex for your own sexual health. I'm not sure if women can go without sex for longer periods of time than men, but men - should not go without for more than 3 days. So, if you don't have a lover and you are not looking for one -that's fine. but find a way to get it out on your own. It helps sooooooooooooooo much and there is no shame in that either. We are human. People have been doing it since the dawn of man. Hope it helps.