Is it normal that i have trouble maintaining an erection?

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I've had many problems in my past with my other girlfriends as far back as I can remember getting an erection. Ive been with my fiancé for 7 months and from the very first time we had sex I felt scared and awkward. I love this girl with all my heart and want her for the rest of my life, but it seems like this is really getting in the way of our relationship.

The firs time we tried to have sex I was nervous and went limp. That happens quite a bit. I overthink the whole situation and can't maintain an erection. Sometimes it's nearly impossible to get me up. My fiancé has a very sensitive vagina and it is nearly impossible for me to touch her down there. A lot of times it seems like sex is just her doing anything to get me an erection and that makes me feel awkward and like it's my job to get up which puts more stress on the situation. When it doesn't work we both have melt downs. It's been a huge issue in my past relationships. She's only been with one other guy and he had the same thing happen during. She feels like she's not enough and isn't cutting it because her only two experiences with sex have been this way.

I went to the doctor to see if there was a problem and he gave me cialis and still it doesn't work sometimes. I'm only 26.

Is it normal to have this much fear and anxiety about sex to the point that it makes it nearly impossible to have an erection?

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29% Normal
Based on 7 votes (2 yes)
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  • MichaelWhitehorn
    7 years ago

    Go for yoga, live a stress free life and avoid alcohol and smoking. A balanced diet and healthy life will naturally give you proper erections, else try out kamagra.

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  • Wynnd10
    10 years ago

    I've had times with previous partners where they were expecting sex at a certain time and when I wasn't in the mood or was unable to deliver it made things bad. And I think I have some psychological shit with it cause my last ex cheated on me a few days after that happened.

    My fiance and I have been to couples sex therapy and it helped a bit but the doubt still lingers.

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    It could be anxiety, which is quite understandable. Society makes such a big deal over whether or not a man can have/sustain an erection. Or, another possibility is that you might have a circulation problem. I say this, because, that is if I'm remembering correctly, an erection happens when there's an increase in blood flow to the veins in the penis. It seems to me that if a man had an issue with proper circulation, that it would cause an with his sexual performance.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Have you tried having plenty of sexual experiences without the eventual goal of penetration?

    There are plenty of other ways to have sex. Perhaps it would take the pressure off a bit if you two became comfortable without penetrative intercourse for a while. Try oral on each other, use toys, give each other a sensual massage... Use Google for more ideas.

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  • diaperwolf21
    10 years ago

    Just tell yourself that you can do it.

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