Is it normal that i have trouble connecting with people?

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I've lived a fairly standard life so far. I was never in the rough, but I was never in the riches either. I never had a lot of friends growing up. But it's only recently that I've been thinking about why.

Sure, I have a couple friends right now. I can share a chuckle and a smile. They're good people, and their hearts are certainly in the right place. But yet, I never feel connected. I feel alienated. Distant. In fact, I feel disconnected. Like I can't really relate or make a deeper connection with everyone around me. This has applied to everyone around me in my life. Friends, family, and even relationships. It's not to say I'm better than them or that I'm some kind of special snowflake, I just don't feel like I'm truly "in" with everybody else. Is this normal?

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    I'm revisiting this post. I still have the problem OP describes.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Unfortunately, the problem resides with me as well.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    7 years ago

    Sounds like it came from my own mind tbh

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  • ZaneT
    7 years ago

    Keep reaching out and interacting with others and you'll be fine.

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  • durridkbro
    7 years ago

    I have a friend like this. She never bothered to try to connect. If she feels alienated, she just gives up and leaves the conversation, doesn't say much, or something. Try opening up more and try to understand others I guess? And they should do the same for you, try to understand where you're coming from and being open to your interests. I don't know. Good luck though.

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    • [Old Memory]
      7 years ago

      I'm not OP, but I have a very similar problem. What happened to your friend?

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      • durridkbro
        7 years ago

        She's still the same at times, she'd rather just stop talking or hanging out when she feels alienated. However, she's an (extremely) antisocial introvert and doesn't like talking much anyways. We usually talk about or do things of similar interests. That's the only way we can connect. If she doesn't understand something or isn't into it, whatever. She will listen to what I have to say of course, but that's it. If that's all she can do and handle when socializing, I don't mind. (But I am generally a chill person.) She's trying to get better at socializing though. Baby steps.

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        • Sluts
          7 years ago

          Sounds like she is just being herself. I'm not an extremely anti-social person but if I feel alienated I don't keep talking or forcing myself to hang out with someone. The older you get the more you realize how few the amount of people are that you really have stuff in common with AND how even that changes over time, say over 10 yrs time, etc. If your friend is comfortable with who she is, she probably won't change much. In my opinion its far easier to hang out with people who aren't constantly trying to dominate the conversation (like how your friends sounds to be)than people who monopolize to just talk about themselves. People like that are very draining to be around.

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  • Ipooprainbows
    7 years ago

    You're a special snowflake

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  • Jacob_Zuma_783
    7 years ago

    CEN - childhood emotional neglect.

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  • bubsy
    7 years ago

    The only person stopping you from opening up more and connecting with others on a deeper level is you. You've got to throw out your self-sensitivity (your ego) if you want to reach others at a real level.

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    Why not? We're all very similar to each other.

    We all pretty much want the same things. Love, happiness, fun.

    You can get along with people just off simple things.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      That's the thing. It's just simple things. But it feels like there could be more to it, y'know?

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      • sandnigga
        7 years ago

        What do you mean?

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