Is it normal that i have to know where my boyfriend is 24/7

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Not because I think he's cheating or anything. But because I worry, like A LOT, when I don't know where he is.
He knows my worries and he thinks it's "cute that I care so much" but I don't think he gets it. I NEED to know, not WANT to know. I have an overwhelming sense of dread when he leaves my house and I don't know where he is and I don't know why but I want to be around him all the time and if I can't be, I need him to tell me where he is.
I just looked at my phone and saw that a majority of the messages between him and I consist of "where are you?" "are you ok" "you didn't answer when I called... are you ok??" "Im worried... are you ok?" "where are you?" "who's that? is his neighborhood safe?" "are you in a safe neighborhood?"

I realize this seems crazy but how crazy? Like I need help crazy or what?!!!!!

Pretty crazy 23
You need help chick 35
Not that crazy, i agree with him, it's cute 13
No biggie 6
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  • Frosties
    11 years ago

    This isn't about your boyfriend. It's about you and your fear of having something taken away from you. You don't sound like you feel secure in your own life. If you shift the focus away from your boyfriend a little and think about yourself and what's really causing the problems, you may find ways of dealing with it.

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  • Marisol
    11 years ago

    You obviously care so much about him. That is good, but try to cut it down. It is not healthly.

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  • Gebruikersnaam
    11 years ago

    I know you only act that way because you care about him. Its not like you want too be crazy. But you too know that this isn't healthy. Even if he doesn't thinks its a big deal, its a big deal for you. Nobody likes to worry all the time, that's not a way to enjoy your life!

    Think about how much better your life would be if you didn't have to worry about where he is, and what he does all the time! Talk about it with a close friend, or maybe a therapist. You got too think about yourself now. Let that be the first step!

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  • AssBurgers
    11 years ago

    If I was his bro, I'd be telling him to get rid of you. Change your ways darling, it's a bit creepy.

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  • joybird
    11 years ago

    As he is a stronger male what EXACTLY could you do about it if he told you he was in an unsafe neighbourhood? Nothing! So stop creating drama.

    This may be cute at the start of a relationship but imagine how he will feel in 20 years. You two will be divorced or you will have at least caused him to lose 5-6 jobs, or you will be physically abusing him - for not answering your calls.

    Please get some help and let this guy have some space.
    No news is good news and if something happened you'd hear within 5 minutes. It sounds as though you have nothing to add to the relationship so you're using this 'concern' in order to communicate with him. Boring!!!

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    He's not a baby leave him be, go get some therapy

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  • squirtle
    11 years ago

    possessive much? he's a grown man (i'm assuming)..

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      he's 19...not really grown but not young either

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  • thinkingaboutit
    11 years ago

    I've known people to break up over things like this.

    Get a therapist. You need one.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      He doesn't really mind it, like i said he thinks its cute. But i do think I need a therapist. The constant worry drives me crazy

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    It is not very respectful of you to doubt that he can take care of himself without you knowing his every and exact move.

    You are being a bit of a control freak.

    My last relationship was with a control freak, it was awful for me. Think twice before you do it to your boyfriend, if you really do love him more than you love to be in control of him.

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