Is it normal that i have these thoughts about my girlfriend?

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So, I just got into a relationship 3 months ago, and I really love my gf. I even imagine spending my whole life with her. But sometimes, I just dont know what to think about her. I mean, she is pretty and hot, but sometimes I think I might deserve something better, or its like, why not wait, I might find someone else, who's better than her. But I dont know If there is someone better than her. I really feel good when Im with her. We never fight, and we go on very well with each other. So my question, is it normal to think that if I leave her, I might find someone hotter and prettier than her?

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  • ThisIsNotAUsername
    12 years ago | pl

    You can't do better than her, but she can do so much better than you.

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    • taciturn
      12 years ago

      Don't you guys get it? Being "pretty and hot" is the only thing that matters!

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      • taciturn
        12 years ago

        ...I was joking.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    Let me get this straight. A pretty girl, who you get along with, is dating you and you want to break it off cause you think you can do better? What if she thinks the same thing? How would you feel? Cause honestly it sounds like she can do better.

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  • equanimity
    12 years ago

    What makes you think you can do better? What are your special skills?

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  • n_o
    12 years ago

    U sound like all u go for is looks, stick with her if it's going so well

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    What is it about people and the grass always being greener on the other side?? Nobody can ever accept just being happy anymore.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Sounds like she can do ALOT better.

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  • NobodyCares
    10 years ago

    WHY IS LOOKS ALL PEOPLE THINK ABOUT THESE DAYS?!??? I say fuck it! Personality is the way to look at someone.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    You know what someones gonna be singing pretty soon about her. "I owe it all to my girls ex boyfriend."

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  • ChasingAfterPond<3
    12 years ago

    I agree with everyone else, if you are saying that finding someone else better than her is finding someone hotter and prettier, I think she can find someone that isn't shallow and wants to be with her for her, not just for her looks.

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    If anything, I know this doesn't sound like love. Might as well dump the poor girl, save her some heart break. Nobodys perfect, if you do choose that road, you're going to be a pervy old man. lol

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    • joey1995
      10 years ago

      good call lol

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  • bigtoy
    12 years ago

    sounds like a case of the grass seeming greener on the other side of the fence. If it works, don't try to fix it. You won't find someone better because perfect people don't exist - just be happy with your lot.
    Have you thought about the possibility of NOT actually finding anyone better? You'd be sorry then...

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  • amigoing
    12 years ago

    If its one of your first relationships, then I would say its very normal, but that doesn't mean you should follow the urge.
    Its essentially a case of weighing up the risks and making a commitment.
    Its possible that you may in fact find someone 'better' if you left, but thats a dangerous step to take... what if you then wonder if you could find someone better than that person?
    Its also possible that you could leave and then find that no one ever matches up to her (theres a reason why the phrase 'the one that got away') is so common.
    If I were you, I would make your choice, and then go with it all the way. Because not only is it not fair on her, its not fair on you.
    If you decide you want to stay with her and make a go of it, then you can start focusing your energy onto *building* the relationship instead of doubting it.
    All relationships involve an element of risk. Just gotta take the plunge. :)

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