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I'm a 19 yr old female and
these are my expections for a future man:
- Kind, Good-Mannered, and Intelligent
- Blond haired, blue eyed
- Average to Tall in height
- Can either be older or younger than me
- Loves dogs
- Is Agnostic
and
- Doesn't want kids or wants to adopt rather than having birthchildren
Are my expectations normal?
Sure.
But I wouldn't use that list to limit who you date. Whilst many of us have a notion of our ideal partner, who we end up is rarely exactly what we expected, often in a good way. Much better to just follow your feelings.
I read "good mannered" and cringed. But if he's intelligent then he can teach you proper vocabulary I suppose.
I love the way people who have "intelligent" as a requirement for a partner are often dullards. The arrogance of it is chuckle inducing.
It certainly does, however that is never their point of view.
I've seen it a couple of times on here. It's always someone who considers themselves smart and thinks their partner must be smart because they are. It's like some sort of backdoor brag, saying they require an intelligent person is saying that they are intelligent. That someone who isn't smart isn't good enough, yet they fail to hold up their end.
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Apart from specifically going for blonde haired and blue eyed men only I would say this is normal.
haha when i read 'dogs' i thought it said 'drugs'!
I'd say it's normal, but as long as your not really strict about it. It's nice to have an ideal, but as long as you don't let a good one go because he doesn't fit with ALL of your expectations.
So nice to see that a person's hair and eye color are so important in choosing a mate. I guess you are perfect so it's sensible to expect the same from your mate.
However, most other people are not perfect and you must be reasonable about setting limits to your expectations, or you will be alone for your whole life.
Get a grip, honey, oh yeah, I think you forgot to mention money....
Everyone has its own expectations, so yes it's normal.
But surprinsingly, you could fall for a guy that is the total opposite of what you were actually looking for ! Besides, your mind can change over time. You can also find the right person and finally understand that he is definetely not someone for you.
This isn't build a man workshop.
I am 19 and have literally no expectations except that he is going somewhere in life and doesn't sit on his arse and scrounge from the government.
I go out. Meet all types of men. I prefer dark haired men yet I have met men with light hair who I really liked too. Many different types of men are able to satisfy you and when you get to know someone and begin to like them more, things change. Your wants, needs, and expectations change and adapt around this person instead.
It's okay to have basic expectations what you want from someone but if they are very specific and very high expectations then how is anyone going to satisfy that? We aren't perfect, we're human.
Those are completely reasonable preferences in my opinion.
Since your expectations are more progressive regarding children and religion, you should probably look for a partner your age or a bit older.
If you are my daughter I will be very happy with your selection except on the last point. It could be deal to your own personal experience that is why you stated such. try talking to some mothers and see what they have to say of having own kids. for me, i went to mass daily for almost 2 years (i missed twice) as i kept asking god to help me to mend my broken relationship with my 2nd ex-gf. somehow on a nite, as i praying at a church, i ask god to give me a gal who will love me more than i love her (as i couldnt blurt out the words to make my 2nd ex-gf to love me as i know its very tough!). thats probably 2004 or so. in 2006 she emailed me and i realize she is married. and i stop praying for this relationship as such. in november 2006 i got to know my present gf and she indeed love me more than i do for her ! can you imagine a girl who still love me so much after 7 years?! my daily mass attendance haven't gone to waste. god heard my prayer and he gave me the gal who is very loyal to me. we become couple in 2008. prior to that i get to know some girls but we never make it through. its amazing that when its from god, it happen so naturally. i thus ask you to pray for the right man to come along. you will know he is the one as time goes along.
I think we've all got a mental check list somewhere inside our heads lol The more men I date, the longer my list gets...Soon you'll be crossing out "Blond hair and blue eyes" and adding things like "Cleans up after himself"
I'd support your quest to find a guy that fits the "Kind, Good-Mannered, and Intelligent" bit. The rest of your demands are a nonsense.
I voted no because chances are slim to none that you'll ever find this man who also happens to be single.
You are being too picky.